Isn't feminism about women choosing what they want to do..and respecting all women's work?
I choose making a home as my career. So aren't I a feminist
2006-10-13 11:23:11 · 38 answers · asked by Baaad Dokhtar 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
As a fellow SAHM, I agree. I am happy and fortunate to be able to devote my time, my attention, my education (yes I have a degree), and my heart to raising my children to be healthy, responsible and productive members of society. Too often, women in this country feel so insecure about our decisions that we target and belittle each other. For many moms, they have to work, for many moms, they want to work, for many moms, they want to stay home. We are all moms, we are all women, and we all make a valuable contribution to society.
While I tend to shy from labels, I think you are a feminist.
2006-10-13 11:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how feminism is defined these days, originally women were expected to look after the children and be housewives and womans liberation was for the equal rights of women in society to choose a career that may have been considered traditionally male, yet to some it has gone a step further and you are ironically considered less of a woman if you choose to have a traditional lifestyle.
Myself I think women make the best mothers, but not everyone has the choice in todays society as with low wages both parents often need paid employment.
A housewife and mother is an important and valid career, and an undervalued one
2006-10-13 11:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by angle_of_deat_69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think being a feminist means wanting equality and if a man can choose to stay at home so can a woman, so in that case, you are a feminist. You CHOSE to be a stay at home mother which is cool.
Personally I cant really stand the thought of having to ask someone else for money or the thought of someone else controlling what I do with my money. I always find it best to make my own or share it with my husband who makes his own as well. I mean to be truthful most women who work tend to be the one who looks after the kids, cooks and cleans anyway so you're probably being smart by doing one instead of both :)
2006-10-13 11:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by Mistress_T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm not really sure what faminist means. if it means that you get to choose to stay at home and be a highly prized mother and homemaker,and to give your family the best start in there life by having someone whos always there. then you are a feminist. but if it means that you have to go out to work ,to compeat with a man in a mans world, to make yourself look good enough to be equal to a man then no,your a lovely woman in a femanin life and in a femanin way.what more could you or any woman, man or child want from life.being a stay at home mother or an housewife is the most hardest job on earth, you need more skills to complete your work and you never seem to get paid,but thats because the payment we recieve is more than money could give. enjoy being a woman, and do your job well,being a woman, no man could replace you and most women these days won't try. god bless you.
2006-10-13 11:40:45 · answer #4 · answered by tallulaberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done it both ways - I had a career in a very male orientated job. I continued that career after the birth of my first child. I dont work now and bring up our children full time and provide what I hope is a good and secure environment for the children to grow in. I am actually more happy with myself now than I ever have been. I feel more feminine and more of a feminist than I did when I had my career when my "femaleness" defined me in a very different way.
I agree with you entirely. It is of course an individual choice. One of the things that really suprised me after I left work was finding out how qualified and educated many of the stay home mums really are. I had not realised this when I was a career mum and am now proud to be part of their ranks. I also know without a doubt that my children are better off this way.
So, in answer to you, I believe you are a modern feminist who isnt afraid to have her own opinions rather than following a single doctrine put forward years ago which is now outdated and outmoded.
2006-10-13 11:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What really is feminism and who really is a feminist?
A feminist is a woman who stands up for the rights of other women and feminism is the movement caused by this choice to stand up for your gender. If that's the case then honey, we (women) are all feminists.
You have the choice to do as you please whether people agree with you or not. And you want to stay at home and raise you children then who am i to tell you no. Just do what makes you feel comfortable.
2006-10-13 11:49:52 · answer #6 · answered by Niki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that feminism is a state of mind. That as long as you are making choices that you believe, you are indeed a feminist. Feminist don't have to be career women or men haters. They just have to believe that women have an equal role in the world whether as mothers and housewives or as leaders of countries. Feminism is all about a womens right to chose, be respected and seen as equal to men. You've made a wonderful choice and deserve to be respected for it as a women and a feminist. Good for you xXx
2006-10-13 11:36:43 · answer #7 · answered by bamba_982 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes girl you are a feminist choosing what you want to do is the way to go. when i met my hubby i never went to work again untill the kids had got an age where they did not need me as much and then i started my own business. never be ashamed of being a HOUSEWIFE and STAY AT HOME MOTHER there is no greater or more satisfying job. my kids used to bring their friends home from school cos their parents were out at work and they were mostly latch key kids. i never missed a school open day, play or parents evening. i was always a governer of the school they attended and always knew how they were doing at school. if they were ill i was always there and not pushing off to school cos i had to get to work. i was and still am proud to have been a stay at home mum and housewife a skilled job which is seriously under rated. go for it gal
2006-10-13 11:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a woman who is making a choice about how you want to live your life. This is good. If you want to stay at home and care for your home and children, this is a good thing. If you want to work, this is good too. It is nice to have a choice like this. I am not quite sure what a feminist is, but I think being a woman is awesome.
2006-10-16 17:14:11 · answer #9 · answered by ValleyViolet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with your choice. Anyone who has ever been lucky enough to live in situation where they worked and someone else in their house devoted themselves to homemaking will know what a wonderful comfort and support it is. Coming home to a clean orderly house with good cooking smells and happy smiling faces at the end of a hard day is one of the greatest blessings life has to offer.
In my view feminism is about choice. Choice of career, of lifestyle, choice of the control of our own bodies, etc. Your choice is a valid and thoughtful one and if your husband has a demanding job it is a very sensible one too. I have lived both ways, and in my view there is only room for one really major job in a couple's life if their home life is important to them.
Don't let anyone put you down about this. And don't let yourself fall into the trap of putting yourself down (I'm just a housewife').
If it's the first time you're going into full time homemaking you may find this site useful: www.flylady.net.
2006-10-13 11:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by TC 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋