i have this one friend who, whenever we plan to do stuff, she always stands me up. we always have a good time when we're together...but then every once in a while, we'll be planning to do something, and then right before we go to do it she'll be like 'i'm sooooorrry, but my other friends invited me to do this other thing'. i think she has a problem saying no to people, but when it comes to her other friends versus me, she always picks them!
we always have fun when we're together (whenever we do actually do stuff), so i don't understand why she stands me up sometimes!
like now, for instance. earlier this week we had planned to go out to dinner tonight, but i called her today and she never called me back! so i guess we're not going to dinner....why does she do this???
2006-10-13 11:12:32 · 5 answers · asked by mighty_power7 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Unfortunately, you are her "back-up friend", which is really no friend at all. It's not nice at all to ditch you if something better comes along. Odds are she'll regret it when you hopefully move on. If you think the friendship is worth saving, you should talk to her about it and tell her how you feel.
2006-10-13 11:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by Tara P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even try to under stand her. It would be a waste of time anyone speculating as to why she acts like she does.
Phone her tomorrow and ask her. Listen to her excuse, then make a decision in one of the following ways:
1. Accept her excuse and carry on with your friendship as normal.
2. Accept her excuse but do not make plans with her.
3. Do not accept her excuse and tell her you don't want a friend who does not care enough about you to tell you when she cant stick to a plan.
Having a good night out with someone does not make them a good friend, there are other qualities that you need to consider also. You are a better friend to her than she is to you.
2006-10-13 11:21:01 · answer #2 · answered by Just me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because she's taking your friendship for granted...i don't want to believe this but its almost like she uses you as a back up plan....see when her other friends are not coming through...then its okay for her to be with you thats hurtful....because you feel like you guys are close but when she makes plans with you, she bails out at the last minute thats not right...sometimes ppl need to get a taste of their own medicine....i bet if you did that to her she wouldnt like it very well, if you ask me she is more of an associate to you then a friend.....maybe you should try talking to her about this, because if you remain silent she will continue to do this...you have to let ppl know how you feel....she has no problem doing this because you have not managed to put her in her place yet! once you do that i think that she will respect you alot more...if not maybe you should consider finding some new friends *good luck!!!
2006-10-13 11:28:15 · answer #3 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really a good friend and I dare say not a friend at all. Find some one else to hang with who knows what respect is.
2006-10-13 11:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need some new friends!
2006-10-13 11:14:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋