I've been with my boyfriend for 11 months now. i love him soooo much. with out him i have no life and he feels EXACTLY the same way as me. We are both 21. He is Mexican/Catholic I'm Armenian/Chrisitan. Even though we come from different backgrounds we get along so well. I know he is my soul mate. I never believed in soul mates until i met him. Today, at work, my coworker came up to me and said we need to talk about you and your boyfriend. I'm like whats wrong w/ us? shes like you come from a different back ground, you come from a high class family, you are going to school to earn your bachelors and you have a great future ahead of u. Why you with a mexican when he comes from a poor family, your families are different, he doesnt go to school, and barely works. Then I said b/c I love him, i trust him, he is working very hard to find a job and applies to jobs every day, even though he doesnt attend school. he cares for me, respects me.
2006-10-13 11:06:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we both come from different backgrounds but they dont know what i know bout him. he is different. yes he might be bald and dress baggy but taht doesnt matter me. for me, just b/c he is mexican, bald and dresses baggy doesnt mean he is a bad person. He is the most loving guy i have ever met. he is my life, my boyfriend and will be my husband. I just feeeel soo sad, angry and depressed that everyone is against me for being with him. they will never understand. What can I do to stay strong. And no my boyfriend is not a gold digger and doesnt cheat on me b/c he had a bad experience with that in his previous relationship. can someone tell me how i can be strong and igore my coworkers and friends b/c they keep saying negative things bout him and some of my friends havent met him to know what type of person he is.
2006-10-13 11:09:13 · update #1
it feels sooo right being with him. my parents dont know because if they were to find out i would be kicked out. my parents never liked him b/c he was mexican. they never talked to him only seen a picture of him once
2006-10-13 11:10:44 · update #2
Sweetie- I don't know how old you are but I am 46 and have had a few boyfriends. Been married twice am still working on the 2nd. If you never listen to anything, please listen to this. You are the only one who knows your heart! You're the only one who knows your gut. Go With how you feel and don't ever doubt your gut feelings. (I am hoping more young women are reading this and will listen). When your heart and gut (or soul) are screaming at you, you listen. Sometimes it could save your life. If you feel this strongly about this young man, this is up to you. Always remember friends or people will say things for all kinds of reasons. Like my mom used to say, "Consider the source and also consider where they are coming from". I wish you the best and know you will use your smarts (which come from your brain, soul, guts, etc.) to get what you need. God Bless! Kelly
2006-10-13 11:50:40 · answer #1 · answered by kelly m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if what you say, your boyfriend respects you, then congratulations! Secondly, in my opinion, your personal life is not the business of people with whom you work. If you and your boyfriend are happy, respect one another and want to be together, you have every right and I wish you well! Judging a person because he is Mexican, is poor, etc. is just wrong. I would tell those coworkers, "Thank you for your concern, but I can take care of myself and decide who is or isn't right for me." Smile and walk away. Just some advice from a granny whose been this route before. God bless and good grace!
2006-10-13 11:15:35 · answer #2 · answered by amomentssunlight 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how well you know your co-worker. On the surface this sounds like prejudice or bigotry.
On the other hand, your BF does not sound like winner material. If he really wanted a job, he would get one. And why did he drop out of school?
Think long and hard. Maybe you should talk to a friend for one opinion and maybe a school counselor for an unbiased opinioin. Counselors at school should be impartial. They may be able to help you make an informed decision.
Good luck.
2006-10-13 11:11:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're looking to marry him, think about it, its hard to go through life without a job and education. It's also hard to raise a family. I know how you feel in some ways, when your coworker judged your relationship with him. My friends think my boyfriend is totally wrong for me. But beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If you're a bit mad at your coworker, don't be. She's just looking out for you, and trying to find whats best. Just explain to her how he treats you, and her mind should change. That's what happened with me &my boyfriend too. A few of my best friends didnt like him, actually hated him, but later they saw us together, and thought he was amazingly sweet to me, and had a totally different view of him.
2006-10-13 11:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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If you are concerned about him still growing and being able to support himself - then let him do that. I would have not wanted to have someone supporting and helping me too much when I was struggling to make it on my own. I needed to learn to do that on my own.
But it is up to you. If you know his heart and trust him. I would want to make sure that he will not get used to someone else's - your- money looking after him. And you shouldn't have to change your plans for school or your life.
So who cares what everyone else thinks. I find that autrocious that you could get kicked out. You are an adult. You live and work with a bunch of snobs who don't understand Jesus at all? What he teaches is that we are all equal. Religion is obviously teaching people intolerance of others based on culture etc. That is NOT what Jesus taught.
2006-10-13 11:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by ridethestar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other and he is working hard to find a job and you are soulmates why do you care what others say or think?
Just remember there are alway going to be people who are goona say hurtful things but it is your life you have to live it and if you are happy just ignore the hurtful remarks and live your life the way that makes you happy.
2006-10-13 11:11:48 · answer #6 · answered by l_iwoman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love and care deaply about him then keep going you sound like a perfect couple "in love" just because he is from a poor family DOSE'T MEAN crap so talk to him and see what he says and also pray for help from the lord if it is right the lord will tell you so...... feel happy and remember you are a child of god, god don't make junk. he loves you!!!!! SMILE and enjoy life!
2006-10-13 11:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by hey ....... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh, you should'nt feel bad, your co-worker should!
You need to hold on to him if he is working and trustworthy. It is hard to replace somebody like that. Don't worry about what anybody says. You have no reason to feel bad.
2006-10-13 11:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by stephen 1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its none of your co-workers business. Who does she think she is making personal judgements on your life? If it feels right you should stay, but if it starts to feel wrong make sure you act.
2006-10-13 11:09:31 · answer #9 · answered by mad b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why worry about your co worker. May be it is them who should be sad for trying to interfere with your true love
2006-10-13 11:09:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋