Married 15 years, doing good, nice life then discover he has cheated and then he moves out without notice. I'm devastated, kids are devastated, financially the income difference is 6-1 his favor, but regardless I'm so hurt because I love him and want to know does he realize the pain he's causing?
2006-10-13 10:59:47 · 16 answers · asked by Octavia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Probably he may recognize the devastation on a logical level, but he's not caring about the heart hurt he has caused. he obviously is focusing on HIS feelings and not his family's feelings.
2006-10-13 11:03:43 · answer #1 · answered by crazydogg_2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably doesnt realize what he has done and if he is like alot of other guys maybe never will. If he does not realize how he has hurt the kids that is sad. I really hope things go better for you and i know they will sooner or later.
2006-10-13 18:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by Hopeless 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men dont care about the pain they are causing us or their children. All they care about it the pleasure he is getting elsewhere. Take his *** to court get him for alimony and child support, trust me you will feel a whole lot better. That saying...Its cheaper to keep her. Yup. Go file for a divorce. I know after 15 years its hard but I have never heard of anyone dying from a broken heart.
2006-10-13 18:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, if he has ever love you and his children, he knows the pain he is causing. He just isn't ready to own up to it. He sounds like he's being selfish. Count up the cost, love yourself and your children. Move on, down the road you may see it that this was the best thing for you. Can't see myself ever in a marriage with a cheater!
2006-10-13 18:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated and then moved out and left you and the kids with nothing, he DOESN'T CARE about what he's done. File for divorce, sue for child support, take him for everything he's worth, and get on with your life. The kids are what's really important.
2006-10-13 18:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably doesn't completely realize, this is the kind of thing that turns kids against their parents( the one who did it) I know how it feels being the kid- if he still loves the kids he will pay because they will be hurt and mad and ashamed of him. He will realize sooner or later. I'm sorry, its tough.
2006-10-13 18:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by Katie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get on with your life. Its over with him. Pick up the pieces and move on. He is very selfish, too bad you did not find out sooner. Find a new guy. The big mistake is to be dependant. Get more education.
2006-10-13 18:04:54 · answer #7 · answered by yours4xfun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go cheating is a mental abuse,what gos around comes around and he will get his,love hurt we all know that,find someone to love you and respect you and you will soon forget the pain and hurt.
2006-10-13 18:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so terribly sorry. People who can just walk away like that usually have some issue they haven't resolved. For your families sake, please try to work out a mutual understanding. Mothers are the strongest force on this planet. I know you can overcome this. I will pray for you.
2006-10-13 18:03:48 · answer #9 · answered by jessica s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he does, but he is only thinking of himself. Start divorce proceedings and ask for child support and alimony and that might take him down a peg or two. I wish you the best.
2006-10-13 18:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋