2006-10-13 10:40:53 · 15 answers · asked by cheezehead 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes, I still have a friend with benefits relationship, and have for the last two years! We began dating each other, always had a good time together, but never had the emotional interest in each other enough to pursue anything like an exclusive relationship. Someone else mentioned an open relationship, and that's exactly what it is. We connect weekly, or at the very least monthly, are respectful to each other if one of us becomes involved with someone else, Ultimately it's sex without the strings attached. I get mine, she gets hers. We both enjoy it, and when we can't get together, we do chat with each other about things going on in our lives. I definitely recommend the FWB benefit program, as long as you can keep the emotions out of it. Also, be honest with each other, and any dating prospects you have as well. Be safe (obviously). It can be good to you too, IF you're both getting the "benefits". ;)
2006-10-15 02:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "benefits" part was great! Up until the point where we decided to try a relationship everything went super. I think if you only want a person for physical stuff, there's no way you can have an emotional bond afterwards. If you're planning on trying it out, re-evaluate if you would ever like something with the person emotionally, or if it's ok that you may never have that with them. It's fun though!
2006-10-13 10:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by Ally S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend with benefits for years. And at first it goes very well and is fun. But eventually when one of them gets into a relationship and can't spend time with the other, well tensions arise.
In my experience, I began to have feelings for my friend with benefits but did nothing about it. I eventually got a boyfriend, and my friend resented this and threatened to tell my boyfriend all sorts of things to get us to break up. I eventually had to completely get away from my friend, because things were never the same between us.
My advice is to make the rules clear from the getgo, so that when situations change the both of you are prepared to handle it. Also, friends with benefits don't usually end up being long-term friends. Sex always intensifies things.
2006-10-13 10:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by coletteraubal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...I personally liked it. We both had another person in our life. He had a girl named Wendy & I had Billy. It was a pretty cool relationship it lasted for four years. We got along GREAT!!! No stress on the relationship!!! At times it was hard because one of us at times would not be available & we would have to remind Ourselves that this is an OPEN relationship No commitment! Yes we are still Friends but I have moved out of state & a few years have gone by & we are both in relationships with other people & his girl can't handle it!!! So we talk every now & then... Keep an open mind & remember Friends!!!! WITH BENIFITS!!!! that is all it is!!! It can hurt a Friendship too because it is a normal feeling to feel more after you have sex. Love & feelings can be hard thing to keep seperated...That is only natural!!!
2006-10-13 10:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by MoKelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep last year. Someone I had a five year relationship with 10 years ago. We hooked up off and on last summer. And he is a good friend. And when we are both not seeing anyone else then it is open for more than friends. We can talk about everything, no jealousy. Soulmates that will never have a relationship.
Hard to find. Sometimes hard to deal with.
2006-10-13 10:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by ridethestar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup and we are still very close friends! Just keep your emotions in check. Maybe you should sit down with your friend and lay out some ground rules! That's what we did and seemed to work great! FWB can be great fun, but it go sour really quick, you just have to tell each other that remaining friends is the most important thing!
Good Luck and Have Fun While It Lasts!!!
2006-10-13 10:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by Jackson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex and i will be friends for 6 years come sept and we had a friends with benefits and we still talk to each other. I think when you do the friends with benefit thing make sure it is some one you can trust.
2006-10-13 10:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all let me say that if u decide to do the "booty buddy" thing, keep in mind that all it is is sex. problems occur when feelings get involved and it's usually the girl that get's feelings involved. however, if both of you decide to take it further, and u feel good about it, go for it. i hear both good and bad outcomes of having beneficial friends. bottom line......everyone is different and u never know what's gonna happen unless u try.
2006-10-13 10:47:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have had a friend like that for 5 years now .. its great for me .. im not having to explain myself to anyone and the sex is great .. but for some people it dont work just depends on your relationship with this friend ...
2006-10-13 10:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by teresa s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
had one for a couple of months. not bad. i felt kind of guilty though because here i am, messing w/ her, while meeting all these other ladies. and she was just at school, doing her thing, not really dating any1. however, we had our fun. but i ended. the non stop guilt trip flight was too much for me.
2006-10-13 10:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by wizeguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋