I have tried very hard to get along. But I am not perfect & they don't like me. I don't think it is necessary personal. They seems miserable in every area of their lives. How do I deal with the rudeness?
2006-10-13 10:39:27 · 8 answers · asked by shouldbworkn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There are rude coworkers because many people hate there jobs and show it at the workplace. If they are rude with you personally for reason or no reason, analyze the situation. Are you at a position where u are superior to them - could be jealousy. Are you the new superstar at the company - could be envy and they feel threaten. It must be very difficult because we spend a great part of our day at the workplace. You can always try to confront them with a supervisor present. Or speak directly to a supervisor. If you are the supervisor, demand respect you've earned it. If they are miserable in their lives, very possible they are unhappy at home and bring it to work. Nonetheless, don't stoop to their level - if you are happy with yourself and things in your life no reason for you to bring yourself down because they don't see the beauty in you!
2006-10-13 10:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by jovy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've just provided your own answers. You mentioned they are miserable about their own lives. Every time they are rude, just smile and forgive them because you know they aren't happy inside. Someone has to give in first before any improvements can be made at work. Why don't you start the ball rolling?
If a rude coworker offends you, the best strategy is to write him/her a cheer-up note 'Are you feeling alright today? You don't seem very happy. If you have an issue that is bothering you, I'd be glad to offer you advice. I just want you to know that you aren't alone. Take care!' Don't speak to the person in his/her face because some people will misread your action as being confrontational.
I wouldn't advise you to seek a new job elsewhere because every workplace has dificult people. You just need to learn to handle these people well.
2006-10-13 12:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everyone in the office is a jerk except you, I suggest you look at the problem from both sides... you may be THE problem here.
We make mistakes, it is part of growing up to be a better person. It may not necessary you are at fault all the times but there are chances you may be, so avoid those conflicts that create tension and captialise on the good ones.
2006-10-13 18:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by Idol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y don't u just change your job? y let them ruin your day evryday u go to work? since u had tried many way to deal with them but no success, i don't see the need u need to be there. Because soon or later u will become like them to suit into the environment and u will not realise when that happened. So just change to another job, y waste time and energy to deal with that when u can achive more with all those time and energy u spend?
2006-10-13 11:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by chow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I suggest you read the book How To Win Friends And Influence people... by Dale Carnegie
If you say you are not perfect and they dun like you.. you must know what it is that people dun like you for. You can of course choose the way you are but you can also change it and have more friends. It is always easier to work together if people like you. They are more willling to help and cover your *** as well when things go wrong.
Their rudeness has nothing to do with you. You can't do anything to force them to react teh way you want them to..but you can choose how to react to them.
If you had a colleague like yourself.. would you like him/her? If you had a colleague whom you din like but he/she was always friendly and smiley.. after a while, would you warm up to this person and become less nasty?
In the book, there is a story about a man who tried smiling to everyone he met at work.. he found his work place transformed to a nicer place and his life became a happier one...
2006-10-13 15:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to deal with rude co-workers is to be rude right back. Give them what they give you and you will see them change.
2006-10-13 10:43:22 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to ignore them as much as possible. If they are that miserable with their lives, you should feel sorry for them. I would hate to feel the way they do. They are not worth your time.
2006-10-13 12:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it.
2006-10-13 10:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋