okay me and my boyfriend have been going out for six months. Lately he has been acting really childish and getting jealous alot about other guy friends that i have. He says that he loves me and would do anything for me and i guess that is what i want in my life but i dont love him anymore and am thinking about breaking up with him. The only problem is i dont want to be alone. For the last few nights he has been really snappy at me and doesnt want me talking to anyone else but him( by the way he has a really bad temper seriously!!!! and i am really afraid of him) he wont even let me call my own sister and if she calls he gets pissed. I dont know what i should do. Please help me out.!!!
2006-10-13 10:14:19 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im a guy that just got left for not treating the woman good enough.
Do it! leave him, Make him realize what he is missing, Maybe he will beg you to come back and treat you like the jewel you are, Maybe not. Make him learn!
2006-10-13 10:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by Mark. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him, it would seem easier to let him go. I know being alone for a while is scary, but you've got to get rid of him, especially if he is THAT possessive...this has the potential to become violent. Plus, the way he is acting now, he has already sensed, perhaps, your true feelings and he's bracing himself for the break up. He's acting out just like kids do, frankly.
It's hard for me not to feel hypocritical when I say this, but you have to find the courage to leave him. The reason I say this is because I'm dealing with a similar situation with someone playing emotional games with me and I know what you're going through. I hope you have more strength than I do at this point.
2006-10-13 10:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is this controlling then you dont need to be with him. Many women think that know one else would ever want them but thats not true. There are alot of good men out there who wouldnt ever hurt you or tell you cant have friends or even talk to your family. If you stay with this guy I am afraid his outburst might cause him to hurt you please get out before its to late. When he is gone pack up and go somewhere if you have aplace in mind stay with a good friend if you must until you get a place of your own. Remember your not going to be alone but as long as you are with him he is going to keep isolating you there is a good man out there who will treat you right and give you plenty of love dont let him take what love you have to offer away.
2006-10-13 10:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you took a big step in realizing you need out. I agree that you should not be alone.
Don't let your self be alone next time you see him. Best have an adult with you. Either of your parents should be good support in this. If they can't be there then if you go to the same school, ask your school counselor to be there.
If he gets mean and starts following you around after the break up, get a restraining order against him.
Good luck!
2006-10-13 10:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of there. The anger is always the first sign. Look he probably already knows that you're feeling skeptical of how things are going in the relationship.
He is afraid of it though. Because his manly side of him wont allow him to express his feelings to you, he thinks that if he can lower you then you'll never leave because you think that no one else will want you. He'll never admit that, either way the control is the issue. All I have to say is don't get trapped cause you could seriously get hurt.
No lady needs that.
2006-10-13 10:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by mits.galant_vr4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and get out fast. He will kill you given the opportunity. He sees you as property not his lady. When a man views you in that light he will do whatever he can to make sure you never leave so get out now. If you live together, pack your bags one day while he is away and go somewhere he can't find you also call the police department and file a report telling them he has threaten you (and I know he has) and that you are afraid that he is going to come looking for you. I know it seems like a bit much but you have to be careful now days because people get so overly possessive so quickly.
2006-10-13 10:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by Snuggles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you really in some deep sh*t.
First take him to concelling and make sure he's going and wait a good time that you think it's right to break up because the types that are controlling can lead to violence so letem take the classes and when you think its right brake up with him;he won't go so crazy kus he'll know how to control it.
Men like him aren't healthy for us women.
Keep in mind hecould hurt you
but don't let fear keep you away from being happy and safe
plus you dont lovem nomore so it'll be easier for you.
2006-10-13 10:43:37 · answer #7 · answered by LilSweety2791 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
going out? sounds like you moved in?
whatever the case. the answer here is simple....RUN FOR YOUR LIFE.His behavior is normal for him. you have just had enough time for the newness to wear-off. And the abusive /controlling him he has always been .to start showing through. this will not change. well i take that back . it will change. it will get worse the longer you stay in the relationship. reads like he has already become verbally and emotionally abusive. only a matter of time before it gets physical. take this advice. if he goes to work or you know he will be gone most of the day. pack all your stuff and be gone before he returns. otherwise you will need family ,friends and most likely law enforcement
to make your escape. do what i suggested it makes it simple that way good luck ...E
2006-10-13 10:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by ojaieric 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN! Do you really think you will be alone? Think back on your dating life and see if you have every really been without a man. You should leave if he is doing these things and let someone know what is going on so if something does happen they will know. Im sure you won't be single or alone for ever! Good Luck and be careful!
2006-10-13 10:26:17 · answer #9 · answered by DC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the relationship. Him being angry is not a good thing. Its ok to be by yourself. Definitely leave this guy alone. Doesnt sound like a good situation to be in. He may becme violent and hurt you. Run while you can and quit second guessing yourself. HE'S NOT WORTH IT!
2006-10-13 10:17:26 · answer #10 · answered by B U Tiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋