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i don't have many real friends, but I talk to people throughout the day. My style of humor is kind of sying a few funny things, but i sometimes say weird things, that are funny and a little gay sometimes, but nobody seems to get the joke. They always just say "Are you gay?" kind of seriously. I try not to say those things, but sometimes they just come to me and because people laugh, i just keep doing it. What do I do? Why don't they get it? How do I stop? Should I stop? How do I make new friends? Is it too late to change my reputation? Do girls like that? Whay DO they like?

2006-10-13 10:09:33 · 19 answers · asked by sklincky 1 in Family & Relationships Friends

19 answers

Relax little brother. I had the same problem until about halfway through highschool. Later on, a teacher explained to me that a lot of my jokes were just too mature for my classmates to understand. Don't worry, just keep being yourself, they'll catch up.

2006-10-13 10:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by Beardog 7 · 2 1

First of all, don't change who you are. Just because a few school friends "don't get it", or have an opinion about you - doesn't mean you should change for them! You have a long life ahead of you and there will be MANY people who will enjoy and appreciate your personality - if you keep it real. If you feeling insecure about whether or not something your about to say is funny or "gay" - then stop and think twice, if YOU feel it's ok to say it - SAY IT. If someone says "are you gay?" you can reply with something funny like "no, but your boyfriend told me you are!" That'll shut em up!! Making new friends is not as hard as it seems - join something you like - a sport, drama, music, whatever - anything that YOU enjoy doing. Your bound to find some common factors with others in that group and can slowly develop friendships. Don't try too hard or come on too strong to people, just be yourself, do something fun and you'll shine. People tend to flock to those who are happy at doing something, because they too are longing to be happy at doing something - does this make sense? Stay away from the one's who find it necessary to insult you - try approaching new people. And who cares if they are in the "cool crowd" or whatever, all that crap won't matter once your out of school!!!! Good luck!

2006-10-13 10:17:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kristen G 2 · 0 0

You keep saying those "gay" things just because at least you get SOME kind of attention from people, even if its negative. The people who are tellign you you are weird and gay are going to say that to you no matter what....they are just mean. They feel crappy about themselves, and so they make you feel bad to make themselves feel better. Be smart, get good grades, go to college to get a good job. In five years, no one will even know what happened to that guy that used to make fun of you. Just do soemthing with your own life so you can look back and say "haha, im someone now".

2006-10-13 10:20:20 · answer #3 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 0 0

What do girls like? is the oldest question in history without a solid answer, only many theories. I suggest that you be yourself. I had similar problems, but decided to just be me and damn the results. Did it get rough at times? Sure, got beat up, spit on, you name it. But I also had friends that i am still friends with today at the age of 36. Although i did have friction with some, usually moronic jocks, I blew them off and was friends with their girlfriends, when they broke up or he acted like a an ******, I was the shoulder to cry on, the guy who made them laugh when they didn't want too, and the one who got the booty when the aftermath landed. Which of course led other girls to me by virtue of the fact that girls graze with other girls and are essentially pack animals. So you will get the girl, but you be you. The rest will work itself out.

2006-10-13 10:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0 0

Honey, your humor is probably over their heads. You're young yet. Don't try to change to make those people happy with you. Be happy with who you are. Be a real friend to the few real friends you have. They are the only ones who matter. You will not be in school forever, and trust me, people out in the rest of the world don't care who was popular in high school. You will meet plenty of people who adore your humor and you. Just enjoy being your unique self. :)

2006-10-13 10:13:58 · answer #5 · answered by TB 2 · 1 1

wow dude chill ! calm down and don't worry so much about what people say or think. Don't worry about a reputation, because honestly it won't stick with you anyway. I was way popular and a total loaner. It seems people wanted to hang out with me just because I didn't care about hanging out with them. As far as girls go. They take a lifetime to learn and they are all different. My best advise is pay attention. They will tell you everything you need to know with out you even asking.

2006-10-13 10:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by NIKK F 4 · 0 0

Don't worry about it. Nature takes care of itself and all things come into balance when the time is right. Do what you think is right and don't let other people spoil things for you.

You are a child of the universe, no less than the stars and the moon. You have a right to be here.

2006-10-13 10:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

just look and see what other kids do. Don't always try to act funny if thats gonna happen, just stay normal. In classes and stuff talk to people like normal. If you don't talk to people, they subconsiously start to think that you're weird just cuz u dont talk to people.

You should know what is funny and what is not to the other kids. If you think it wont be funny then don't say it.

Making friends starts with the people that are in your classes
When you talk to people in your classes, and after a while you get to know someone pretty well, sit with him/her at lunch and that way youll get to know the people that HE/SHE knows and then after about 2 weeks ull be part of the group.

2006-10-13 10:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

...So many questions. Well in general, be yourself, if people don't like it, SCREW THEM. You will find someone who likes you for who you are, and when that day comes, you will be as happy as can be. Live your life to the fullest, meet new people, and have fun. That's all I can tell ya hun. I wish you the best. If you need someone to talk to E-mail me please. I do not mind at all.

Have a great day!

2006-10-13 10:14:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Don't come off with the gay comments. Even if you think it's funny. Maybe your humor is just misunderstood.

2006-10-13 10:12:49 · answer #10 · answered by KC 2 · 0 1

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