Since judge ordered that he stay with his father 2 weeks a month has lost good student discount on insurance, been in trouble, sneeked out of the house and didn't come home. Grades keep falling. Always an honor student and never got in trouble before when he only went every other weekend. Seems to be chomping at the bit to move out as soon as he turns 18. Should we bribe him with money or car to stay in school? Father never asks to see grades, and never checks for homework. Will he quit school with only 2 months to go? We would like him to stay with us (Mom and Stepdad) and get back on track. Father doesn't seem to be concerned very much.
2006-10-13 10:09:03 · 6 answers · asked by TK 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Encourage him to stay in school. It is his future and he's placing his chances for success in jeopardy. Most young adults, if not all, lack the ability to accurately predict the future or possible consequences of their actions. Adults have the benefit of hindsight. We've learned from our mistakes. Don't play one parent against the other, he will only resent you for it. This is about him and he must decide to motivate himself for success.
A graduation party with his friends may be influential though.
2006-10-13 14:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by big dawg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not his father's responsibilty to check his homework or to make sure it is done. His father isn't the one in school, HE is and his school work is HIS responsibility no one else's. He will be 18 soon and will be legally able to make his own decisions. Bribing him isn't going to get you anywhere because once he is 18 he can still choose to leave school. If he quits school again that will be HIS responsiblity, eventually he will return to get his GED because the jobs for highschool drop outs are few and far between and the ones that are out there for drop outs pay minimum wage, so the car will get repossesed anyway for non payment (oh didn't I mention that when he turns 18 the car can be put into his name and he becomes responsible for paying for it?), life is tough and maybe it's time for him to learn just how tough it really is. Stop taking care of his responsibilities, that is more than likely WHY he is in the position he is in now...because mom and stepdad made HIS responsibilities theirs and he has never had to face any responsiblity.
2006-10-13 20:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he only has two months to go then tell him on the level that it would be silly to quit, tell him to stick it out for a while and then do what he likes.
In the long term; My older brother just failed for the third time and has been kicked out of uni, he's bright enough but he was only there to placate my parents, who have always been very keen for us to go to uni and do well. That's several thousand pounds and three years wasted because he didnt know how to tell my parents he wasnt really interested. If he wants to go on in education then great but if he doesnt want to then dont make him.
2006-10-13 10:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by wild boar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you not petition the court for an evaluation of his behavior lately.....show that its not in his best interest for the latest decision that has been made regarding his living arrangements....Someone surely can help you with that through the legal system...
2006-10-13 11:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
crap, well as long as you raised him with good sense hopefully he will use it, and not be persuaded by his dad. The only thing that will change him is if you encourage him to make good decisions, remember no one likes to be told what to do, specially teens. if you tell them what to do they are bound to do the opposite,
2006-10-13 10:24:19 · answer #5 · answered by kimber g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him to me ...I'll beat him silly and show him life isn't a game
2006-10-13 10:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by ?Whiskey Girl? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋