2006-10-13 10:03:31 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A few do, most don't.
2006-10-13 10:05:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because love is not a hole or ditch.
Love is a CHOICE not a condition. It isn't a bottomless pit that you just are walking along one day and just "fall".
It is a choice based upon the things demonstrated by the other person, and your contribution to their life as well. Usually if these things are pleasing and agreeable and stand out from others......the two people will "choose" to spend available time with each other, and continue to put forth all the previous effort and more.
If this same consideration is maintained.......over time, the love will grow, and even in times of disagreement, or hardship......with effort and consideration, it will last and be maintained.
But when people get settled, and comfortable and feel that they no longer have to contribute or put any effort into the relationship because now they "love" each other.............that is when the whole thing goes in reverse.
Kind of like money in the bank. If you keep making deposits.........even though you may have to withdraw sometimes, you will still have a nice balance on the account.
If you get a good amount in.....then decide you are okay to take money out, and you make it a habit, and then you infrequently make little random, tiny deposits, but overall TAKE more than you put in........then your account will go into the negative. And in time it will be shut DOWN, and you won't be able to open it back up again even if you DO pay the negative balance off.
2006-10-13 17:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Some people stay in-love forever, some don't. You can fall in love with someone, but then over time realize that while you love them and care about their well-being, your not "in-love" any longer. That happens to many people - and that's why divorce is out there. There is a difference between loving, and being in-love. You can fall out of love, and then fall back in-love with someone new. It's simply just not that easy to explain - it's an emotion that can stay forever, go away, and come back again. One thing is for certain, if you find yourself in-love, and can keep it that way, consider yourself very lucky! I do :)
2006-10-13 17:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kristen G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the forever in the relationship has nothing to do with love but commitment. In everyones relationship there are ups and downs. I think many people feel as soon as they don't feel "in love" that they leave the relationship. There is a deeper kind of love that comes from sticking out the hard times. So to answer the question- Yes we can fall in love forever with a lot of work and commitment.
2006-10-13 17:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by gizbit76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think some can fall in love once and some can fall in love many but when u fall in love its always different because u fall for a different person and a diff kind of love, but what u take from love u will remember and be fond of forever, its more important what u learn from Ur last love and how u take it to the next. always take the good and leave the bad but learn from it.
2006-10-16 16:50:00 · answer #5 · answered by melly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!
Love is like a tide in the ocean, even when we find a person who we want to love forever, it's constantly changing, some times tide is out and you don't love the other person at all, it's as though the love has dried out, some times the tide is in and you are overwhelmed with love, and it floods you.
That is just life, but first I guess you have to find that person who makes the tide come in more often.
2006-10-13 17:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by chickennosenshi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you really love someone you might have a love for them forever, but to face facts most relationships and marriages don’t last forever. I do wish there is a love that will last forever. I think most of us dream of that love that will survive all. So to me the answer is a yes with a but. Keep holding out for that maybe you could be one of the lucky ones that make it.
2006-10-13 19:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to work at it. People lose each other because once they have the commitment, they feel their job is over: that they can just exist around their partner and that that should be enough for them.
In my opinion, from the start, it helps to be best friends, and to be completely open and honest with each other - never pretending to be someone you're not.
In truth, both partners need to constantly, day by day, week by week, year by year, try to make the other person happy.
That means
-being there for them for whatever they need (help, advice, an ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on, a pat to their ego, reassurance, etc)
-giving them your time, attention and love whenever they need it, forsaking everyone else in order to provide for them
-respecting them. Which includes: don't embarass them, especially not in public and don't demean them, or their opinions.
-making sure that they always know that they are the most important person in your life
-making sure that they never doubt (or need to) your complete commitment and loyalty to the relationship (that includes never threatening to leave or to cheat, no matter how angry you are, and never comparing them unfavorably to people from your past)
-being everything they need in your roles as friend, family and lover
-giving them room to be human. No one can be perfect all the time about everything. Be willing to overlook the little things that annoy you.
-not trying to change each other. People, at their core, are the person they are going to be forever. If they arn't what you're looking for, then you have to change what you want, or move on before commiting in the first place.
And finally, talk about how grateful you are to be together. Both with your partner; and to whatever higher power you believe in (every night). By reminding them, you remind yourself.
2006-10-13 17:17:51 · answer #8 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. Everyone's different really. I think when you start a relationship, you like to think its forever but sometimes you just grow apart. I was with a fella for eight years and one day just realised we were different people. I still love him and would do anything for him but im just not in love with him.. if that makes sense! x
2006-10-13 17:48:50 · answer #9 · answered by I-Love-My-Boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love i believe is a choice, if we all fall in love, that is pretty much saying you have no control over your emotions or who we want to marry. You choose who you marry and love, and depending on what you put in to it, depends on what you get out of it.
2006-10-13 17:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by kimber g 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Both my father and mothers parents did so I guess so. As for the rest of us and our generation I hope so. To go after retirement to the Caribbean and just bask in your lover and the only worry would be "where the heck is my margarita",...giggles,..would be amazing and you can't say it couldn't happen how do you know?!.
cheers
2006-10-13 17:08:37 · answer #11 · answered by scully_22ps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋