Been with daughter father 4 12 yrs,good gut but finicially sucked!Could never count for his money always getting eviction notices and etc...,I think he did the best he knew how but I had to let it go.We both have moved on,and I have moved backed 2 DC from VA,Beach.He's still in Va,Beach and is now with a girl with 3 boys who lives in the projects.I have moved on as well with my high school sweetheart.He's 31 and I'm 30.He's always been a good man 2 me and a good dad but just had us in some bad situations.Not on purpose I don't think.I love him still and want him to do right.Friends have told me they have seen him and he don't look will since he's been wih this girl and it hurts me.Cause I do love him.When I call the new gf's house 4 him he's real short with me,nothing hardlt 2 say ut he still will sneak and say I luv .If he get's himself 2gether should I give this thing another try?
2006-10-13 09:57:19 · 14 answers · asked by dccuttie75 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
BY ALL MEAN'S....Love cant be thrown down the tubes because of money...Get back together and both of you sit down and try to find a resolution...God!!! I wish I could get my love back...Good luck to you both...
2006-10-13 10:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ma'am, b/c do you want your daughter to fall for someone like that? Would he be good enough for her? You need to be strong for your daughter and for yourself. (At least in front of your daughter, cause Lord knows you are gonna cry over this one- But you deserve to be treated better- every woman does.....If you have to get a list of friends and familys' e-mails and when you start to feel weak and like you can't handle it, then e-mail a different person each time- that way they won't feel they need to say something mean about him to get you over him- cause I'm assuming that he means a lot to you, and they won't give you the same ole talk about how you deserve better (Like I just did) and with an e-mail you get it off your chest and you might get some good advice- I also think you should get CD's that are upbeat and about getting on with your life- I personally like India Arie....
It is going to take a while, but I think you should move on before you get another guy- if you stay with this one he is going to sneak you the "I love you's" while he is sleeping with her? What is that about? Be true to yourself and show your daughter that you are a strong person- hey take her for a girls only day, and see what's up in her life and how she feels about him- she might have wanted you to leave him a long time ago-
Good Luck honey and remember you deserve to be treated as YOU are the ONLY ONE in your man's life.....
2006-10-13 17:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it sounds like you really love this guy! 4 1/2 years is a long time, and he's the father of your child. It seems like a hard situation. I think you should look forward to your future with your daughter, and if it's meant to be, it will. I pray that things work out for the best. God bless!
2006-10-13 17:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my dear girl. i have just recently had the same thing happen. I dated my h/s sweetheart for 5 years and then ran away from home, and never broke things off with him, so things were never really Over between us two, well recently he got himself into jail, and i'm married now, with a baby, so the time in my life is not right, and he's made some big mistakes, so the time in life is not good, and i wrote him a letter to 'end' things with us finally. and i have not heard yet if he got the letter. So i don't really know how to answer that question.
2006-10-13 17:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl you know better than that!! You've moved on. Keep movin if it ain't far enuf away. U need to let him go. He couldn't support you and his own child and now he's trying (unsuccessfully) to support a woman with 3 kids. He's not mature enuf to take care of you and your baby and has irresponsibly taken on more people he can't take care of. U go w/ your sweetheart from HS and get u and your baby the better life.
2006-10-13 17:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by TB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO,,,,,move on baby ,look you got your hands full whit the kids,you dont need another one.life is too shot to keep goin around an around,,,you dont sound like a bad lookin chik..email me an lets talk.
2006-10-13 17:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by treyshowmeet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight - he's bad with money, living with someone else and short with you on the phone.
Have you ever heard of three strikes and you're out?
2006-10-13 17:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you should ask yourself this. does he want to be with me. because he with another girl. second why mess it up because with someone else right now. third if sneaking around and tell you that he love you. can you image what he tell her. anyway i think you should wait on that and be with your daughter. give her all your time. because she come first. so good luck
2006-10-13 17:08:14 · answer #8 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you should. It's obvious you two still love each other he just needs a little help with manging his money that's all.
2006-10-13 17:08:17 · answer #9 · answered by britt7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. i think u should. I'm only 10.
2006-10-13 16:59:53 · answer #10 · answered by Martial Arts Freak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋