2006-10-13 09:55:23 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Clearly all was not as well in his world as it seemed to an onlooker. People can hide fear, guilt, insecurity and grief under a facade of happiness. Their very happiness draws people to them because they can seem irresistable - but that just makes them hide their fears and insecurities deeper.
2006-10-13 10:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by lianhua 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!! I am a parent of a 17 year old who at one time thought about taking his life, because of children picking on him in school. Don't feel bad because you are being isolated. I found that children who do not associate themselves with the in-crowd are the ones that usually succeed in life, because they are not being influenced by negativity. By choice, I didn't have a lot of friends in high school, because so many of the teenagers and even some of my friends where during things that was wrong. My circle included myself and 2 other selected friends. They had the same interests as I and we did things together. Pray and seek God for knowledge pertaining to your life and tell your parents how you feel. If you can't tell them, talk to a teacher, pastor or school counselor. I believe they care and would be devastated if you commit suicide. Suicide is a permanent action to a Temporary Problem. May God Bless You!
2016-03-28 07:57:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What people see on the outside is not always what is going on on the inside. Many people who are depressed and unhappy may have these things and more in their lives but it does not mean they are content with life. There is still a hugh stigma attached to mental health and people find it difficult to talk about, therefore they try and cover it up by carrying on as normal. These people are known as happy depressives, because they walk around smiling but, inside they are screaming. It is really sad that people feel unable to speak out, and the consequences can be devastating. I think also men in particular find it more difficult to talk about how they are feeling, or to contact their Doctor because it is perceived as a weakness and does not adhere to the role of the man. That is why the suicide rate among young men is so high.
2006-10-13 10:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People commit suicide is usually when they feel there is no other option / escape route left. He may have had personal issues (being gay, run up debts, done something he feels he cannot escape the consequences of)
Or, it may be depression-related. People who are bubbly on the outside may be using this as a shield/bubble to hide their negative feelings.
Depression is a hard thing to conquer, because the cause of the depression is not clear, or the cause is that person themselves. If a neighbour makes you depressed through noise or agro, you can move. If a partner makes you depressed by cheating, you can leave them. If being overweight makes you depressed, you can diet. If you yourself makes you depressed, then suicide is the way to get away from yourself.
2006-10-13 10:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by Rob P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about your loss. Just because on the outside someone looks like they have it going on they may not on the inside. It's really sad to think that but that's the truth.
We all have many parts of us that are hurt, depressed, afraid and shamed and they are all covered up by our skin. As a result we can put "on a face" and no one could ever really see what is going on inside of us and see the deep wounds we all have from past rejection and hurts.
I don't know why this person would commit suicide but in their mind at the time ... it was their last resort. And unfortunately there is the devil that is always feeding lies into people and deceiving them. He doesn't help one bit with people who are hurting. He makes it worse.
2006-10-13 10:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by lfbrowne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a sad question.
I guess it is a good comment on life, we attribute EVERYTHING to external things, money, clothes, cars, friends, job, house. The whole way we base an opinion on someone's success and therefore happiness is mostly down to what they own and have, and their social standing.
What you highlight is that really, the only thing that matters is how your head works. How you think about things and the ability to be happy with what you have, whether that is everything or whether that is nothing at all.
For most people, even owning everything in the world would probably not be enough. Leads us to the question: Would you rather be happy and have nothing at all, or unhappy but have everything that you want? Life ain't a rehersal, gotta figure out what makes you happy, genuninely happy.
2006-10-13 10:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There really is no answer to that question babe. My brother commited suicide 2 years ago and the day before, we'd been out together and had a great laugh. He left letters for each of us but they gave no answers at all, All i can say is it does get easier. Remember the good times x x x
2006-10-13 10:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by I-Love-My-Boys 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Chemical imbalances in the brain.
You may have heard of the x-pro football player Terry Bradshaw. One of the NFL's great quarterbacks and now announcer.
He had a lot of trouble with depression...
Think about that. He was one of the greats, fans loved him, he had the job that millions of guys would die for, and money was coming out of his ears. Yet he was depressed and needed to get treatment badly.
So even though things may look good from the outside lookin in. It may be a whole different story on the inside looking out.
:o)
Jerry
2006-10-13 10:30:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The things you stated he had going for himself were visible and observable. A person is made up of many things we don't see. Past trauma memories, uncontrollable thoughts urges dark desires. And people struggle when they have all of the external things going on and feel like they should be happy the feel even deeper sadness when they find these things just aren't enough.
2006-10-13 10:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by NuMi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when you apparently have everything a person may ever want, that is when you are really empty. Maybe there was something else that he was lacking in his life, maybe he did something which he could not live with. There are many things that a person apparently happy may carry inside that may drive them to this atrocious act. But unfortunately that is life.
2006-10-13 10:25:34 · answer #10 · answered by andia2amat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must have been suffering from depression or some other mental illness. Very tragic. Is it someone you know? There are some helplines to support people bereaved by suicide, here is one:
http://www.bereavedbysuicide.org/
Or a really good general bereavement site is
http://www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk/
2006-10-13 10:09:33 · answer #11 · answered by Jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋