2006-10-13 09:55:18 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Does he make me laugh?
Will he be a good father?
Will he be a good provider?
Do we have a good chemistry?
Do I want to be with him 24/7?
Do I love his good points and not so good points?
Do we fight all the time?
If I can answer yes to the first six and no to the last, then he's the one. :) That's how I knew my fiancee was the right one. :)
2006-10-13 11:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by benjis.girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may sound crazy but when I met my husband I had a list. Actually had a written list. I just got out of a long relationship and decided I would make a list that my next boyfriend would have to meet. (honestly I didn’t think I would take it seriously) I got lucky and within a week, my hubby met everything on the list!
My list:
1. Must believe in God (preferably catholic)
2. Must have good family
3. Play baseball
4. Taller than me
5. Dark hair
6. Dark eyes
7. Goals for his future
8. Wants kids
9. Loves me for who I am
10. Gets along with my family.
There was more but like I said I got lucky and he met everything! That’s why I married him, and I love him to death!!
2006-10-13 10:05:55 · answer #2 · answered by SavvyGrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am married and this is what my husband did to win my approval. First of all he has a twinkle in his eye that says he loves everyone around him. He never criticizes others unless they are evil. He always has something nice to say about others and when he is angry he lets his views be known and WHY. He is trusted and he is kind. I think if you find someone who is kind then you found someone wonderful. But also he never lies to me and that is a big factor. He may say something I do not agree with but I hear what he has to say. And he is one of the few people I know of that would give his shirt off his back for a stranger if they needed it. Other then that he loves me for all my faults and believe me that is a lot. I guess I am one pretty blessed person because I got a real wonderful hubby.
2006-10-13 10:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not I can love you beyond your faults or other idiosyncracies. Love is about accepting someone for who they are, no matter what. Does this person have the same goals as me, for the most part? They don't have to be identical, but it would help if we're on the same path...Also, I'd look for emotional stability, financial stability, good relationships with his family members and friends; his ability to be committed and faithful is huge. Finally, looks and genetics do play a role for me, because if I have boys, I want them to be tall...good looking helps. ;)
Some people call that shallow, but it's just a fact.
2006-10-13 09:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many factors: Is he funny and intelligent? Does he get along well with my friends and family? Does he treat strangers nicely (says a lot about personality)? Is he motivated to make his dreams of the future come true? Is he optimistic? Affectionate, compassionate, understanding and forgiving? Does he want the same things I want deep down, do we share the same ideas and values about where we want to go in life and as a couple?
2006-10-13 09:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when I met my husband he was the first guy who I could be myself. Heck a week after we met he saw me with no make up and my hair messy. It was like we had known each other forever, even though we had just met.
Every girl has a list of things she wants in a spouse. I found the important ones in my husband.
It is different for everyone what criteria they use.
2006-10-13 10:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by gizbit76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. can we have an intelligent conversation? can be 'dumb' with him and just act like a clown?
2. is he sensitive to my needs, or is he all about himself?
3. is he driven and goal oriented as i am? will he help me in the relationship on whatever is needed, or will i be carrying the burden alone?
4. he has to be physically appealing. i have to feel that spark everytime i see him. (this will help me avoid temptation if i have a sex symbol to come home to!) LOL
5. are we spiritually compatible? same beliefs?
6. this ties into number four, but the sex has to be mind blowing. he has to be endowed very well, and very skilled in using it. (that 'size of the ship/ motion of the ocean' crap is just something men with itty bitty parts say, oh, yeah, and the women who love them say it too!) LOL
7. he has to be atleast comparable to my salary, and good with money. it is not good to have TWO spenders in the family.
8. he has to be a good parent. have good morals, and be ready to give his best and his all for the family.....as i am.
9. he has to be honest. he has to be able to maintain fidelity with me.
10. we need to be able to communicate. i also need for him to be assertive, because I am. if I am able to walk right over him.......then I don't need him.
2006-10-13 10:02:59 · answer #7 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you accept that person for who and what they are and what they believe in? Do you share common goals? Will you be able to committment to a lifetime with that person? Will it end up being a onesided marriage? Does the man's feelings run as deep for me as mine do for him? and the most important determining factor....do I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him ?
2006-10-13 10:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by ne_patriots2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im married by the way.
Has to be my friend,compatible with me in bed,NOT into ball sports(but we love ufc and boxing:) ) Not the type to go out to the bar after work,a partner,not a boss,a man who shares moral code with me and similar views and goals. And I got him!
2006-10-13 09:58:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if a man is happy cuddling up to me on the couch with bridget jones on dvd on a sat nite, if he still fancies me in a pair of track suit bottoms,doggy slippers and his football jersey and if he still comes up to my house when im sick to look after me thats the man for me. not that there is a man like that
2006-10-13 10:01:41 · answer #10 · answered by Belosnezhka (aka Gex) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋