No Hat On New Born Baby In 40degree weather..?

Question

As I put my child on the pre-school bus every morning there is a girl whos also putting a friends child on the kindergarten bus. Shes not there mother, the mother goes to school and has 3 kids. So shes basically the live in baby sister. The children both are usually dressed pretty warm besides the infant who is 4 weeks old. I had an infant this time of year last year and I still have warm snow suits and fleece suits to go over a babys close. There never even a hat on the infant. How do I approach this mother or in this case the sitter (cuz shes usually the one out there) and offer her the warm suits I still have from my daughter without sounding like Im being a rude b*tch and have noticed they dont dress the baby warm enough. It's subsidized housing that they live in.. so Im thinking its just a money issue. And i'd like to give them the warm suits if they would be of help.

Answer 1

I think that would be just fine and very generous of you.

You could go over to the house and speak to the mother, (I'd rather do that than the sitter) and just say to her "hey, I was cleaning out the kids closets the other day and I came across this (these) and I saw you have a child that it might fit since they don't fit mine anymore, would you like them cause if not I'm going to donate them to ..."

That way you can get to know her a little, she'll more than likely be grateful for any help and it doesn't appear that she's a charity case, you're just a neighbor cleaning out your kids stuff.

Answer 2

Just say it with out being mean about it. I had a neighbor like that she was a young mother and didn't really know any better I just walked up to her and said "sweetie your baby will catch a cold without a hat on her head" She kinda laughed at me and I went in an got an infant cap that was my nieces and put it on the babies head.

I would have to say personally I would have to tell the mother about the baby being outside with out a snow suit or hat on, no matter what the sitter or mother thought of me, If she has 3 kids she will accept the advise

Answer 3

Say I had a baby this time last year, it sure is chilly, here are some of the suits I used for my baby, aren't they cute, I think they will look great on her. Split the suits up give some to the sitter when you see her, give some to the mom with a book and a card. With my two kids I didn't have to buy a single outfit, I did anyway when I found something cute, but passing along clothing is par for the course when you buy an outfit that is outgrown in a few months.

Answer 4

Just a tip - I gave birth to my baby in Africa and she is english - white white skin! I had so many black women telling me off for not totally wrapping her up in layers and with hats in the middle of the sweltering summer!

I got so offended by it! And it IS actually true that black skin can't cope as well with the cold as white skin...but thats not answering the question....the point is - you really need to address this issue without offending the carer of the baby. Why dont you ask the carer if the mother ever leaves a hat to dress the baby in? You could just say that you dont want to appear to be interferering, but you learned from your own mistakes (hey - make up a cheap lie - who cares - the baby's welfare is at stake here!) - that its really important to dress em up in hats until they are say, 6 months....

and then you could offer her some of your own kids hats (go and buy some cheapie ones for them)....just see what she says and try the old 'oh I felt so bad because I also didnt realise how important hats were' trick....

Answer 5

Try just saying that you had these extras and didn't want to just throw them away so you were wondering if she needed a spare in case the baby puked or something on the one she has. That way she doesn't know you noticed the baby doesn't have one. You could offer up some hats and mittens too, again, they were just the old ones you had, if she doesn't need them she can do what she wants with them. Make it seem like no big deal, just no use in throwing it away. It's really nice to know people notice things like that and actually care. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Stop by next time you see them and give them the clothes. Just say oh, I noticed your baby might fit into these and was wondering if you wanted them? If they don't get the point then its time to be a b**ch and say I think that your baby needs a hat. I've done it myself, I see a lady putting groceries in her car, it was 45 degrees, and the poor kid had shorts and short sleeves when the mom was warm in her jeans and sweater. OOOOHHH that made me mad so I tried giving her a blanket, and when she gave me a dirty look I pointed out her baby was freezing. I embarrassed my husband but some mothers are so thoughtless. Don't let the poor baby suffer, you could always contact the police and they could warn her too.

Answer 7

be nice and give them the suits and say something like, how quickly its gotten cold, it took you even by surprise, and how you thought they might like the suits since your not using them anymore. Tell em something like how your doctor or mother or sister or what ever told you how important it is to keep little ones bundled up cause they cant control thier own body temp. make over the baby, be helpfull, dont insult or put down. Play dumb.. what ever it takes to get them to keep the baby warm. Some pople just dont know and need a little guidance. Good Luck

Answer 8

You could just say that you have all of this stuff that you are done using and were looking for someone to pass it on to instead of throwing it away. You noticed that their baby was the same season baby as yours was and thought that they might fit. Don't make it about them...make it about you wanting to find another home for your stuff...maybe you should throw in some pieces of clothing that are not snow suits and similar to help throw her off of what you are really doing.

Answer 9

Dont mention the fact you're giving them the clothes because the baby is under dressed for the cold weather... simply say you saw what a darling little one they had and have been meaning to donate your daughter's clothing to someone but dont have any friends with children that age. Therefore, you'd be more than happy to offer the clothing to them!

Ooh, just read someone who wrote to do the 'I just happened to notice your child doesnt have a hat on' approach. Oh no, please dont do it like that!!! I abhor when someone makes these types of comments to me. 'You dont think your child is too cold dressed like that?' But of course I dont, otherwise I would have put something else on her!!

Answer 10

My 10 month old daughter was born in December and she hated to be buddled up,blankets,hats ect. So I just put a carseat cover on her carseat and that was it. Still to this day she hates to be buddled up. I would mention it to the mother but ya know it is up to her and her freind.How long is the baby outside? About the hat my daughter would never leave the hat on and will not leave a hat on now.