Why are people so happy-crazy in love with they first meet/marry someone, and then later they are so unhappy?

Question

Like you seem them a few years later down the road with a bunch of kids, and the husband's walking in front of the wife, and they look so miserable? Why is that? How can you prevent it? Why can't people always stay happy like they used to be? Is life just cruel? :(

Answer 1

Love, is a grave mental-illness...

Answer 2

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Why are people so happy-crazy in love with they first meet/marry someone, and then later they are so unhappy?
Like you seem them a few years later down the road with a bunch of kids, and the husband's walking in front of the wife, and they look so miserable? Why is that? How can you prevent it? Why can't people always stay happy like they used to be? Is life just cruel? :(

Answer 3

Because they are in lust not love. Or they are in puppy love. Or they think that they can change all those little things they don't like about their SO once they're married. You can't go into a marriage wanting to change a person, you have to accept them for who they are. Example: I have a friend that got married. She was raised very Christian. She met a man that had a questionable past, but he started to go to church with her. She thought he wanted to change his ways and she could change him into the kind of man that goes to church every time the doors are open and that prays with the family at night, etc. Turns out he was only doing it to impress her, and he thought that once he got her away from her strict, religious parents that she would lighten up and become a party girl. They were married almost two years and are divorced now. You have to accept the person you are with for what they are now; they won't change later. If you aren't happy with them now, you should just walk away. People rarely change how they are.

Answer 4

True, life is ****** up, u c, many people forget why they fell in love with each other, sometimes they allow the years of stress and heart ace take over their emotions, so when its time to show it to each other, they quarrel, fight, and just plain being dead (emotionally) its up to either of them to be strong enough to rekindle that love, that's why they have to depend on each other from the beginning of their relationship. OR some people just get married because they were deeply infatuated or lonely, depressed, girl, people get married for a whole lot of stupid reasons, the point is , they move stupid and after marriage, say 1 yr, they realize it and then the stress begins, worst yet if they have kids, OH GOD!

Answer 5

Sometimes relationships end up like that because the partners don't know how to communicate with one another and keep their marriage exciting.
To prevent it, you should not let yourself go just because you're married and keep your fun side. The couple should do things together and make plans for exciting events that can spicen up their life.
Some people do stay happy and life isn't just cruel.

Answer 6

What a great question! A good book on this very subject is the badly titled, but excellent book "Getting the Love You Want" by Harville Hendrix. It describes what is happening to people when they fall in love, how they inevitably end up disappointed, and how to avoid this pitfall. A great read, a real eye opener about the hidden expectations we have when we date and get married!

Answer 7

happiness is learned. Education is one of the ingredients to happiness. Unselfishness is another. Religious backing and the practice of it in your daily life. Know to recognize the faults in persons that can be altered in your favour and the ones that can't be altered. And finally, a relationship is not 50/50 as you may have heard. A relationship is 100 per cent by both partners.

Answer 8

I've seen studies done that show the activity in the brain when people first meet someone. Different chemicals are released in the brain and they make you feel happier. You have more endorphins in your body at the beginning of a relationship and as the relationship goes on those chemicals lessen.

Answer 9

Life at the beginning of a relationship is all roses and lustful love and happiness.
We get married and have children, we have housework etc, we try to balance all the things we have to do in our lives and you realise that your man is not the only one that needs your love so you have to share it (that's not hard) but your love changes, it's no longer that magic, can't wait to be in his arms again, it's I do love him but I'm so tired and I have so much to do.
If you are very lucky your man will help and that will give you time for each other but 9 times out of 10 that's not the case and I guess that initial feeling you had for your man just fades away.
Sad but true. It's not all bad though because once the children are off your hands you can start to do things together that you couldn't do before and life becomes an exciting challenge once more.
Life has it's cycles and if you hang on you will go through them all. Life is not so cruel.....you get out of life what you put into it. It has a lot of rewards.

Answer 10

i think that really depends on the husband and wife? some women let themselves fall down hill after marriage and then the husband is not physically attracted anymore and so since there are kids involve he stays for the best interest of them, but that is not all marriages. it really depends on the people

Answer 11

I couldn't tell you! I'm actually going through this right now in my relationship. I just want things to go back to the way they used to be when we were so in love with each other. We are still in love but it is all so different now. I seriously don't know how or why it happens. For me personally I don't even know WHEN it happened but I know that it did.