I am so angry at him and want to tell his wife. She should know what he is doing. He is older than I (significantly). I should have known. I am also mad at myself for being duped into his web of deceit, but I am also furious at him.
2006-10-13 09:39:51 · 22 answers · asked by Roberta M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just leave him alone and forget about him .... when evrything cools down tell him wife over lunch face to face in an open enviorment .... where there is lots of people just in case she goes crazy !
2006-10-13 09:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yeah bummer but don't be angry @ his wife or yourself - he's the whore, he's the bum and he's the trick. When someone defies our trust we never fail at turning it inward and of course we hurt and often we seek revenge. I feel if you talk to someone long enough and put your own needs aside you will find out the necessary information before you put your heart into it. However, most of us don't want to know the truth - and why would you look up his name now and not a few days after you met him. People are even doing back ground checks before they date or hiring investigators because it's type of world. Some where in your mind you found a need to dig and now you found out what your might have suspected at some point - WALK away. You won't gain anything out of it and he wife knows her man is a cheat even if she won't face it just like you did not want to see it. BETTER her than you - chalk it off as an experience and find what you need for you and deserve. He has to be pretty pathetic that he has to LIE and MANIPULATE just for a roll in the hay - he's a sorry piece of low life trash -
2016-05-21 23:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jo-ann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell the wife.
Not your place to do so. Chances are she knows already that her husband has been creepin' around, most women do.
You are furious, hurt and that is totally understandable. But take this as a lesson learned and move on. Karma will come back to kick him in the *** one day. In the meantime, don't drag his wife down to make yourself feel better about being duped.
You have learned a huge lesson. Be thankful you know now and not down the road when things in your heart and mind got more serious. Good Luck!
2006-10-13 09:49:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY!!! Do tell her!!
Let me tell you, I would be eternally grateful to you if I was in her shoes. I agree with the lady above, write her a letter with a contact number or email address! Not a physical address! You may want to arrange to meet her in a public place, but don't do this till after she knows knows what is happening, it would be cruel and she has been through enough, you don't have to add public humiliation to the list. If it makes you feel more comfortable, take a friend, (I would not go alone) they can sit on the other side of where ever.
Easier said then done, but try not to focus too much of your energy on him, he is a waste of your time. I do feel for you, but try to understand that there is ALWAYS someone out there worse off ... his wife for instance. I have read lots of people saying not to say anything and not to ruin the family, but what is so good about a family where Dad is a ... hm, pig, to put it politely.
She does not necessarily know what he is doing! It is possible she has not a clue, some men are very good liars!! - surprise surprise
It may be so hard for you, but you are doing everyone a favor - well bar him, obviously, but be strong, there is most definitely someone out there for you. Your hurt/anger/pain will become easier to handle if you give it time. Not easy but just hang in there because the sun will come out again
Well, in the end, its just my opinion. Every one to their own : )
All the best
PS
DO NOT LET HIM FOOL YOU ANY MORE, STAY AWAY HE IS TROUBLE AND THATS FOR SURE!
2006-10-13 10:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by tyreesesmum 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh hell no! I am sorry you feel duped, you have every right to. Fact is, a decent woman will fade into the woodwork and act like she never knew him. His wife will figure it out because if he did this with you, there will be plenty to follow, and she will figure it out. You won't be the one to destroy a marriage, he will. I hope you are not in love with him. Find yourself a nice man who isn't married. Do not be a homewrecker. He will take care of that himself. Classy women find that out, and they toss their butt right over the curb. If you keep seeing him, knowing what you know, you give a bad name to women everywhere. Let it go. Tell him it is over because you are a woman, his wife is a woman and women have to stick together on this sort of thing. I'm sorry you had to find out but better late than never.
2006-10-13 09:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by sherijgriggs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not get the wife in it, because when you was dating him she was not there, yeah she may not know what her husband doing. but every dog have there day. and it just going to make the relationship stronger cause another woman is telling her about her man. instead of her finding out on her own. leave the family alone, you found out know move on. don't hurt the family because he hurt you.
2006-10-13 09:45:38 · answer #6 · answered by miss lady 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he's talking to you he's probably talking to another woman as well. Karma will get him. Don't even stress yourself about telling him. I'm sure his wife probably has some type of clues he's up to no good. Sorry that man was a loser
2006-10-13 09:43:35 · answer #7 · answered by B U Tiful 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why tell his wife?? cause trust me she is going to take his word over yours....and believe everything he says, so if i were you i would just leave it alone and go about my business, i know your angry but really whats your point in telling her,.what do you think your gonna get out of it? because she's not gonna leave him...all she's gonna do is take her anger out on you and believe every word he says so she could give herself a good excuse to keep him, better now then later...just thank him for letting you find out how he really is, just move on with your life...and don't look back....cause you know in your heart that you deserve better.
2006-10-13 10:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by tanya m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Break it off with him and chalk this whole thing up to experience and/or stupidity. Telling his wife will solve nothing and just plain spiteful. Let it go and move on.
2006-10-13 09:44:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would. He could have been dating lots of other women and telling THEM the same thing!! It isn't your fault he's a liar and a cheat. What's important is that you're no longer seeing him and will hopefully stop what he's doing. His wife has a right to know what a lousy bastard he is!
2006-10-13 09:47:06 · answer #10 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋