Cheating is much deeper than the act. It is also through thought. Not to mention most women I know are hurt when their man looks at another women they think are sexy. I've heard it all. Like"Honey if men didn't look at women we'd be gay." Ridiculous, if it hurts your woman, why do you do it?
2006-10-13 09:34:15 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People, this is a question about some men, not all men. My husband does not do that because he never feels the need. Not because of anything I have said. He believe as I do that thinking about someone else in a lustful way is cheating on your spouse. He is not gay, he only has eyes for me. Vice versa. I do not think about any other men in a lustful way other then my husband
2006-10-13 09:49:14 · update #1
My question was, if it hurts her, why do you do it?
2006-10-13 09:49:44 · update #2
I don't know, but they shouldn't be.
2006-10-13 09:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
The only woman a thing like that would hurt is one who is insecure and has those issues within her.
I could care less if my husband looks at someone else. I tell him all the time that we are married, and that does not make him blind. That does not mean that he is dead, or dying, or that he no longer has feelings. I don't walk around with his testicles in my pocket.
I do recognize that there are lines that can be crossed, if he is gawking at her and just refuses to look at anything else or it is interfering in whatever he or we should be doing......then hey, buddy, snap out of it!
But I don't flip out because if I see a sexy guy with the kind of body that I prefer and am attracted to, I look. I don't fan the flames of jealousy with my husband, as he doesn't do the same with me. But I do look, and admire, but I keep going and that is that.
Get some self esteem. Go to the gym, take up a hobby, go back to school and learn a new profession. Do something that will uplift and empower you to feel good, and do something physical so you can look good. Cause the look of jealousy, insecurity, and THAT whole thing.......is really, REALLY ugly.
2006-10-13 16:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by lilac b 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
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So, you've never thought of an actor or singer as "sexy"? I find that hard to believe.
Looking and appreciating is a natural part of life. And IMHO it's the folks who are insecure in themselves and their relationships who are so threatened by the fact that there are other people in the world who are more attractive than they are, and their spouses may just (oh my gosh) at some point happen to see one of them and think that they're attractive.
2006-10-13 16:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get real. Are you saying that women never have any emotional reaction to complements bestowed to them by men other than their partner or that they don't watch TV and react when a hot movie star is in a scene with his shirt off displaying his well toned body?
Their is nothing wrong with the look but don't touch rule while in a committed relationship. In fact its healthy!
Delusional and insecure women equals emotional high maintenance. Just be proud when you have a guy who appreciates both you and the appeal of women in general
2006-10-13 16:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are right, it would be rude for your man to obviously gawk at a woman walking by in front of you. The fact is, men notice beautiful women...its just part of being a man. They cant help thinking someone else is attractive. But what they dont need to do is obviously stare at them, theres just no need for that...they can control themselves enough to not do that. But dont expect them not to notice. Also girls, no matter how much he loves you or how beautiful you are, there will ALWAYS be someone prettier than you in the world. That doesnt mean he loves them or loves you less, its just a fact we women need to deal with. Be secure in yourself and know he loves YOU for you.
2006-10-13 17:04:29 · answer #5 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually, I'm a woman, and I think it's completely fine for my man to look at other women and think they are sexy. In fact, I'd be worried about him if he didn't! It's completely natural. Just because you are going out with someone doesn't mean all of a sudden you aren't attracted to anyone else...that's ridiculous. I know he will be attracted to other women, just like I will be attracted to other men, all my life. We wouldn't be human if we weren't attracted to others!
Now if you are talking about a guy obviously leering at another woman while his girlfriend is around, that is plain rude and disrespectful. But I think flirting and looking when your girlfriend isn't around is just fine.
2006-10-13 16:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Because God made men like that, or because they aren't truly in love with their women as they say they are, or any number of other reasons.
I personally don't care as I love and trust my fiance totally. He doesn't even notice other women, that I know of, but if he did, I wouldn't mind. Just because he is with me doesn't mean that he is dead. He can look and think that someone else is sexy. That's his choice. It's if he flirts with them or steps out on me that it is NOT ok. I look at other guys, especially sexy ones. But, I don't dream of having a relationship with them. The same goes for me: I am in a committed relationship, one with lots of love and trust, but I am NOT dead. We naturally notice the other sex. It's how we are made. I personally believve that if you don't like your partner doing this, then you are not trusting of him/her, can get jealous too easily, and are not totally secure in the relationship. When you are secure in your relationship, you are able to look, and so is your partner, and it doesn't bother either one of you. It's one thing to look, tho, and to stare. Staring is a totally different thing. Noticing and seeing is innocent.
2006-10-13 16:41:10 · answer #7 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, then according to you every man that's ever been with a women is a cheater. Men are very visual in the way they're turned on. You have to understand that just because guys looks at girls doesn't mean they want to sleep with them or would rather be with them than with the one they're with.
2006-10-13 16:40:17 · answer #8 · answered by yblur 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Let's answer that question by posing another...when you are out in public do you look at other men or does your husband/boyfriend put blinders on you like they do for horses so you can't look around?
I bet that answer is NO. OK for me but not for you right?
You must be a pleasure to live with.
2006-10-13 16:43:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most people want what they can't have - I think its the same case here, men are more attracted to women that are already with someone else.....
2006-10-13 16:39:54 · answer #10 · answered by ~Dee~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand that beauty attracts guys, a hot woman attracts guys, but out of respect, shouldnt look, or at least pretend that you are not paying attention, just for the safty of your womans feeling from being hurt.
2006-10-13 16:54:29 · answer #11 · answered by maherkiss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋