2006-10-13 09:30:10 · 16 answers · asked by Sexi B..i.t.c.h 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Whoa! It ok, I guess. It's better than getting preggie, right?
2006-10-15 05:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by Hacker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... that's a loaded question.
It's not wrong in a legal sense, as you don't need parental permission to obtain oral contraceptives.
I'm going to guess that you're referring more to the moral aspect of the situation... let me ask you this: Which would upset your mother more in the long run... if she found out that you'd gotten a prescription for the Pill behind her back, or if you came home and told her that you were pregnant?
Ideally, it would be best for you to talk to her about it; that way, you don't have the guilt associated with doing this "behind her back," so to speak. I don't know your mother, of course, or have any idea what her moral standards are... I'm going to take a shot in the dark and guess that she wouldn't approve of you having sex, though. (I'll tell you something, though... that's never going to change, no matter how old you are!)
It's a pretty difficult subject to bring up... if I were you, I'd go about it in the most nonchalont way possible. Ask her what she knows about it; tell her you've been reading up on it and are curious about the possible fringe benefits... like your periods being more regular. And tell her that it would make you feel better to know that, later on down the road, if you found yourself in a sexual situation that you weren't anticipating (don't forget... she was a teenager once too! She's been through all this already!), you're protected from pregnancy.
Still, it's hard for a mother to give her teenage daughter, essentially, permission to have sex. But if you approach it in a responsible, mature way, and she refuses to take you... look at it this way:
You're probably going to have sex regardless of what she thinks. The responsible thing to do in that situation is to protect yourself from unwanted pregnancy. In your situation, you might be better off going to a local Planned Parenthood clinic.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org
It's completely confidential, and they'll give you the pills right there, as opposed to writing a prescription you'll have to fill at the pharmacy. It's also a lot less expensive; they cost is based on a sliding scale... so the less you make, the less you have to pay. Prescriptions can cost as much as $50 a month if insurance doesn't cover it. I had a friend who got her entire YEAR worth of birth control from Planned Parenthood for $50.
I'd be a little leery of going to your family doctor... they charge a lot more, and if he's your mom's doctor as well, there's always a chance that the information could "slip out."
Visit Planned Parenthood's website... lots of good stuff there. Best of luck!
2006-10-13 09:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by xxandra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't say that you were wrong for wanting to protect yourself, but you are wrong for doing it behind her back. That's not something that you should go through alone. That's what your mother is for, so she can take the pressure off of you and put it on her shoulders. If she has to find out from someone other than you about this, you know she will be one of three things: angry, her feelings will be hurt because you didn't talk to her about it, or she will be thankful that you have a responsible side. Tell her what you did, don't keep secrets, that only makes things worse in the end.
2006-10-13 09:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by wilsonhutchison04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Define "wrong"....
1. You don't say what your age is. If you're 17, that's one thing... if you're 12, that's another.
2. There are almost always clinics ("Planned Parenthood") that will talk to you about your options w/o mom around.
3. How much do you want to risk the wrath of your mom for not telling her? Would that be any better that asking her to go with you? You do know that mom will find out, right?
I have to agree w/ the other posters... moms can be your best friend in these matters, even if you can't stand each other right now. Moms (suprise!) have been thru this too, and know the drill much better than you do.
2006-10-13 09:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by geek49203 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,its your health and your choice what you do with it. The pill can be very usefull for a number of reasons as well as protecting you against becoming preg.
If you want to go on it with your mums permission you will have to think about where you are going to keep them so she cant find out. Hopfully if you decided to go on the pill you feel you can tell your mum too.
The most important thing is that you still practice safe sex!
2006-10-13 09:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by Izzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi no, but your doctor might no give it to you. I suggest going to your local family planning clinic. They will give you it just as long as you know the basic of sex. They will ask you questions. And they will be fine as long as you say you are using condoms. They will then just as you a series of questions and then they will give you the pill. If you dont want your mum to know i suggest you find a place to hide them and a time to secretly take them. If you hide them in say a bag inside a bag under your bed so you can get them but you mum wont find them. Also take as soon as your alram goes off and then you can hide them all day without her knowing. Quite a few times girls have carried them on them and there mothers have found them on them. So if you do this you should be safe.
2006-10-13 10:17:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont give your age,but is there a reason why you couldn't talk to your mother about it before going to the doctor,its sensable to do some thing about contraception, but try and talk to your mother,she will be hurt if she finds out from some one else,and these things do come out.
2006-10-13 10:19:24 · answer #7 · answered by beckham 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it's unfortunate that you don't appear to trust your mom to understand.
But better to take the pill than get an unwanted pregnancy, just make sure the guy uses a condom, the pill doesn't protect you against disease.
2006-10-13 09:32:48 · answer #8 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, but if you aren't old enough they will tell your parents on the next appointment that you have. Your mother may not know now but when she does find out it will be an unpleasant experience.
2006-10-13 10:34:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but well done for taking care of yourself-
However what about stds and infections
Be careful-your mum may be able to help you-She may be pleased that you are responsible and mature.
2006-10-13 09:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no but if u r old enough to get the pill by yourself get a mate who is to go with ya
2006-10-13 09:38:31 · answer #11 · answered by charlotte 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋