Im engaged to a wonderful man who has always treated me beautifully, but as our wedding gets closer I am getting more and more jealous. He has always been about me, and said he doesnt even think other women are attractive, but lately lots of girls have been talking to him on myspace, women he never mentioned, am I wrong for thinking this to be strange. I trust him but I just hate the idea of other women being around him!
2006-10-13 09:25:57 · 27 answers · asked by Sam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you are not being stupid but just watch him and talk to him about it..dont forget hunny.....he put that ring on your finger. dont ruin things now as the wedding gets closer if u have a good man
2006-10-13 09:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your last sentence, "I trust him but I just hate the idea of other women being around him", is a contradiction. Either you trust him or you don't. Add jealousy to the mix, and you might being seeing more than is actually there.
If your relationship doesn't have trust, you can't have a relationship. People hit on my wife from time to time, every now and then some ex-boyfriend calls out of nowhere. I don't freak out. I truely trust my wife. She communicates with me and I do the same. We don't keep secrets.
Jealousy and trust can't live in the house. Don't let fear push a rift in your relationship. This isn't a boyfriend, you're engaged to the man. If something is going on, it'll surface
2006-10-13 16:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by ezenbrowntown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not out of the ordinary to be wondering why these women are talking to him...or suspect something... your only human...u need to sit down and talk to him about it tho if u are that worried about it...because before u get married make sure u can talk to him about anything and everything and make sure u really can trust him...ask him who they are and why he never mentioned them and ask him if they are friends or something more and if u seem satisfied with his answer and u know hes telling the truth and he remains calm then everything should be fine...I know how it is to be a jealous person...but if u love him and trust him and talk to him about it...then it should be okay...and its okay to hate other women being around him...but as long as they are friends and u trust that thats all they are then let it be....but never let ur guard down...always keep your eyes open...no matter how much u trust a man...always second guess things and look over them a few timed before u are sure of them
2006-10-13 16:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by afi_havok_girl_13 . 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How well do you know him really?
I have two initial thoughts but only you know which one is right.
First, women always become nervous just before a wedding...on a scale of 1 - 10, how scared are you? On a scale of 1 - 10, how happy are you? Answer that for yourself and then talk to him about your little "self test". If he loves you, he'll want to know what you are thinking and will be willing to delay the date until you feel better about things, if that is what you want.
Second, without meaning to sound negative on men, women always know what is happening with their men but try to deny the facts because of their desire to have someone in their life. Ask yourself if you're in denial about this man's honesty or if you're being paranoid. I think we all know the truth inside ourselves...we just want to hear it from someone else.
I say, if you're an adult, trust your instincts.
2006-10-13 16:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd worry no man can look at other women and not think their beautiful, that should tell you straight away. If he has other females in his life as friends he should be able to tell you who they are and not hide anything from you. Does he have issues with you having males as friends? if so, whats good for him is good for you. My father told my partner No matter where you get your appetite you always have dinner at home. I so believe that. my partner and I watch porn together when we're feeling keen for each other just to make it a bit more interesting. My partner and I have a wonderful defacto relationship (not married) we've been together 7years and have no opposite sex close friends because we love each other and respect the fact we both get jealous and don't want to put ourselves into territory that could do major damage. we have 2 beautiful daughters and the rest is history.
2006-10-13 16:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by valentina c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My response is not specifically about you being concerned about your fiance, but I think my response will prove helpful anyway. There is much I could say—but the most important advice I could ever give you is to make Christ the center and the foundation of your life together. A good marriage actually takes three people: the husband, the wife—and God. Make sure of your commitment to Christ, and make His love the heartbeat of your marriage.
What difference can Christ make in your marriage? First, He will give you a new love for each other—a love based not on your own selfish needs and desires, but on what you can do to help each other. This type of love—the type Christ has for us—will make you kind and considerate, instead of demanding or harsh.
In addition, Christ will help you stay pure and committed to each other, because you know He brought you together and is always with you. Jesus said, "Therefore, what God has joined together, let man not separate" (Matthew 19:6).
2006-10-13 16:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
one solution to your problem- get him to close out the account. I had the same problem with my fiance. It was the other way around. A bunch of guys would send me messages about how cute i was and that caused alot of problems between him and i. The problems went away after i cancelled the account. My space is an adults cheap form of way to meet people since other online dating places actually charge people for their services. He shouldn't be tryign to meet anyone else come on!! he's YOUR fiancee! make him cancel the account. That's the least he can do no matter how pretty he tells you you are- be real you and i know that there's other prettier people out there i even know that. Not to be mean or anythign but- he's trying to bull s hit his way through this by telling you you're the prettiest!
2006-10-13 16:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you not talk to other men? At work? Socially? Online? You cannot expect to place people in a bubble and not allow them to communicate with anyone other than you! Unless he gives you a reason to be jealous, then you should back off of this mindset or you will be inviting disaster to your relationship. Loving someone involves trusting that person...if you don't trust, then don't marry him.
2006-10-13 16:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little suspect. Especially near the wedding, are you sure that one of you don't have cold feet. Do you know these women on my space and why is he going there for attention from women, when he has you?
2006-10-13 16:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by breath4u 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry yourself about that my dear. Girls always try and push themselves on guys that are taken. Just keep the lines of communication between the two of you.
BTW don't believe him when he tells you he doesn't look at other women. Nothing is wrong with looking but its when he acts on it then there is a problem.
2006-10-13 16:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by RACQUEL 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋