I mean, can you imagine being with the same person day after day? how boring is that? why not just date a different person every day of the week? We change our hairstyles, outfits, toys, cars- why keep the same person for the rest of your life? i am just having a hard time understanding why anyone would want to get married, except to make the sex legal.
2006-10-13 09:13:55 · 18 answers · asked by Justina 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi there, i'm 30 years old, and i'm almost to the point where i'm wanting to start settling down and getting to that boring point in life. =) I want to have that significant other and know that he is going to come home every night and I don't have to worry about him going off with other girls. I'd like to have children, and have a stable income for once, and maybe be a stay at home mom and focus on our children. There are other perks to being married so don't give up all hope. =)
2006-10-13 09:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by aloneinga 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
there are many reasons why people get married... some people just have a feeling of complete happiness, and decide within themselves that they want to stay with that person for the rest of their lives... staying single gets lonely, and many people get married because it is a way to always have someone who loves you close by... even nights you have to spend apart are not as lonely because you know there is someone out there thinking of you and missing you. I got married because I loved the person very much, and couldn't even imagine myself with anyone else. The timing of getting married was a little off... the timing was due to kids, but we had always planned on getting married.
some people marry for money, some for status, and others for refuge(getting away from their parents)... some even get married BECAUSE they are having kids, and it seems like the RIGHT thing to do... think about it, you are gonna be stuck around that person for at the very least 18-20 years anyway... might as well get married, take the tax credit, and have some fun in the process.
2006-10-13 09:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex after you're 18 is not illegal... No need to get married to have "legal" sex. I got married because I enjoy companionship more than being alone. It's all fine and dandy while you're young, you flit from flower to flower, and are not worried about the future. But when winter knocks on the door, and you don't have a shelter built, you'll freeze to death. I don't want to be alone when my winter comes, and I'm willing to brave spending a long time with one person for the sake of having companionship of my family when I'm older.
It is not to say that marriage is for everyone. I'm sure, there are people who are much happier single, no matter what age - and they should remain this way.
2006-10-13 09:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is something special that is shared between two people and for some, it's not just about the sex. It has to do with feelings and caring for someone. When you find that special someone who makes you feel like no other has before, wouldn't you want to marry this person and spend the rest of your life with him/her? Don't you think you're worth being loved by someone for the rest of you life or just being a "one nighter" like how you suggested to date a different person every day of the week? The choice is ultimately yours to make but marriage can be a beautiful thing. It's up to you what kind of a marriage you make it to be and when you meet that special someone, you'll know exactly what I'm talking about - good luck to you!
2006-10-13 09:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by albert 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because it has many perks:
You are with someone that will be there for you always.
He won't be running off after other girls (unless he is a sleazeball) and bringing home STD's or AIDS.
You get a stable income.
You get someone to love you always.
You get someone to share your life with, your hopes and dreams and fears, what you expect out of life, etc.
And many other perks. It is just a matter of what a person does or doesn't want. I would NEVER want to change partners daily. I have always wanted to be married. I did have a horrid husband for 17 years (dated for 3 years before that), but that didn't deter me. I finally found the right one for me that makes me laugh daily, that treats me like a woman and an equal instead of a piece of meat to be conquered, treats me with lots of love and respect and kindness, doesn't abuse me, is calm at all times, has a wonderful family that has taken me in as one of their own, and much more. I don't know anyone who doesn't want this kind of relationship. You CAN'T get that by dating someone different every night because you don't get to know them as a person. They are just someone there to keep you company every night, someone different. You can't share your life with them because they will be gone as of that night. How can that be good? If you are really young, then I can see where you may be coming from. If you see all the failed, messed up marriages in the world and think that if you got married it would happen to you too, I can see your point. BUT, not all marriages are like that. Marriage takes lots and lots of hard work, time, patience, compromise, commitment, and communication, and many other things. It is only as boring as you let it become. It can be fun and everlasting, IF hard work is put into it from both partners.
I do hope that you change your mind one day. Marriage is wonderful with the right person. It took me over 20 years to find the right guy and I am now living with him and engaged to be married next year. I am now leading the kind of life I always wanted to with the kind of person I always wanted.
2006-10-13 09:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is not solely about sex. Its about sharing a life long commitment with all its ups and downs. Sometimes a mate is the only thing that makes sense in this world when everyone is running around catching diseases and acting like fools.
Married people can be comfortable even when their bodies change over time.
They have each other to lean on.
They learn the likes and dislikes and mold to fit one another.
Unlike bed hoppers, married people know and love each other for who they are, not for what they are!
2006-10-13 09:28:35 · answer #6 · answered by TenJac 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Relationships are different for everyone. There are people who are satisfied with dating a different person every week and then there are those that want to be with the same person for the rest of their lives. I think the difference between them is the person you're with. If you're with someone who makes you feel as if you're the most wonderful person in the world then why not marry and commit yourself to them?
2006-10-13 09:21:58 · answer #7 · answered by Secrets are best for one... 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is awesome. Someone who loves you and cares about you. Children and someone to help you raise them, Being a single parent isnt fun. Someone to come home to every night or who comes home to you. Someone you know isnt gonna give you anything cuz they are only with you. Someone who thinks the world of you and you think the world of them. Someone to share all your life and expeirences with. Its something to look forward to. You should try a serious relationship. Im not saying run out and get married, but be with one person and only one person. Dont run around and get yourself pregnant and not know who the father is, or get an STD cuz the men/women you are sleeping with are sleeping with other ppl. Its part of life and death. Live it!
2006-10-13 09:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by countrygirl66032 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I got married because I enjoyed his company so much that I didn't want anyone else. We have so much fun together and I can see us this way forever. It took me a long time to find a man like that though.
I understand how you could feel the way you do though. A lot of people get married and really shouldn't have.
2006-10-13 09:17:57 · answer #9 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I used to think exactly the same way as you do, particular my parent were divorced. I though I would get divorced a hundred times if I ever got married. However, I met a very nice guy and married to him - I think if you ever meet the right man, any female would want to marrie him.
Then I realized that people want to get married because otherwise you would be all alone - no one to love and no one loves you. Sleep alone, eat alone, sick alone - without any care and help...
2006-10-13 09:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by mimi 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋