I had two children from a previous relationship and I've got two children with my new partner, my children have different surnames. When I go to i.e. doctors or dentist people have said nasty things because my kids have different names. I personally have not got any problem with this, they are my kids and we are happy. Myself and partner are not married, do other people come across this and how do you deal with or what do you say?
2006-10-13 09:13:08 · 5 answers · asked by Lisa P 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You`ve answered your own question -you have no problem with this- bring your kids up to believe the same, all be happy and never worry what the rest of the world thinks.
2006-10-13 09:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by vivi-mac 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I took over the upbringing of my wifes children when they were aged 4, 3 and 18months.
They are now 20, 18 and 16.
Never had a problem with the names, and never had any abuse. I offered all of them my surname if they wanted it (they dont see their father) all refused and I am not in the least upset by that.
They are great, I love them, what else is there?
2006-10-13 09:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them. Tell them to sort out their own faults before even thinking about criticising somebody else. They are totally out of order.
My son, who has my surname, lives with my ex-girlfriend. She now has a new partner. If she tried changing my sons name there would be hell to pay.
At the end of the day your childrens names are their identity. If people can't handle that then just be thankful you are not as narrow minded as them.
Stick to your guns.
2006-10-13 09:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by paddymac 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was four when my mum took me to stay with now my step-dad and she put me down as his last name long before they got hitched, this is a personal choice don't do it coz of other people we are in the 21st century who gives a siht what others think.
I now have a different name from my little bro coz i changed my name back to my dads when i turned 18.
2006-10-13 10:47:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was with my second hubby-No-one ever mentioned the different names of my kids-
Perhaps you could just be insecure or maybe paranoid about it
Cos now its normal
-Very normal indeed
2006-10-13 09:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋