My boyfriend loves me and I know that. he has a few female friends and likes to hang with them. it would be okay with me, BUT one girl wants to have sex with him, the other already did a while back before us 2, and the other is his ex from about 1 year ago. I trust him, but not them, because they always make sexual comments toward him. I dont wanna keep him from his friends but I also wanna be sure that it will all be okay. i love him and dont want him to feel i dont trust him, but i also dont want some thing to happen and it be the end of us, we are having our first child together and i wanna be sure we last. What do i do or say?
2006-10-13 09:01:08 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It takes two to tango....im glad you trust your man so far, but if I was you I would have a heart to heart with your man! With a child on the way he should be more worried about having a safe clean enviornment to bring his child home to....not what his ex's **** look like. As a woman you know what trouble other females can stir, so maybe you should set a rule that hes not aloud to hang out unless you are there with him! If he puts up a fight because they are his friends, then hes hiding something and you need to take yourself out of the emotional rollercoaster it will be if you stay. You child does not deserve to watch you two fight forever! Especially over another woman!
good luck
2006-10-13 09:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way in hell I'd want my b/f talking to people he's slept with, let alone hanging around them without me around! He sounds like a man whore and it's a shame you ended up getting pregnant. You should talk to him and let him know how you feel about this. It's sad, but once you've slept with someone, there's no way to knock the relationship down to friendship again and have your partner feel completely comfortable with it. I am a very jealous person, so I might over react about some things, but this is over the top. And the fact that they're making sexual comments toward him is COMPLETELY uncalled for and is an insult to you. If he thinks it's okay, then would he be alright with you making comments toward someone else? It's the same concept! If you're in a relationship, you shouldn't be giving or receiving sexual comments from ANYONE except your partner. If you're going to have his child, it's time you stepped up to the plate and had the balls to let him know how you feel. There's no way your relationship will work if you sit there meekly and pretend everything is okay. This is depressing you, it's bad for the baby, and it's TERRIBLE for the relationship. If he can't be understanding of this, it's sad to say, but you're destined for single motherhood. Weekend daddys are not a good option. How would he feel if you were going out with your ex's and having a good time without him? It's absolutely unacceptable and you shouldn't tolerate it. Tell him how you feel and let him know that it hurts you that he feels as though he needs other women in his life to suppliment something that you seemingly lack. If he hadn't had sex with all of them it would be a different story, but once you've crossed the line, there's no going back on it. Let him know how you feel. This is intolerable.
2006-10-13 09:20:36 · answer #2 · answered by TermiteChokinOnASplinter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I wouldn't trust him~ If he's hanging out with his ex that is just not right...Now if you are friends with her as well that is a different story! All I know is that one of my exes was still being friends with his ex and guess what!!! Eventually they got back together!! And you honestly are answering your questions for yourself....if this other chick that he's friends with wants to sleep with him do u really want your man hanging with her? Now if she is just his friend thats a different story but go with your intuition! I wish you the best of luck but honestly there's never a guarantee that you'll last! I would just have a long talk with him and let him know that you feel very uncomfortable with his "female friend" situation...If he really loves u maybe he can accomodate you by including you when they all hang out! there's no reason for him not to be able to especially if your going to be practically married with having a child together...if he's being scandalous about hanging with them or else lying to you about it then you know what is going on...Just follow your heart girl! good luck :)
2006-10-13 09:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by Alesha W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have to be open to your man and let him know how you feel. If you dont then the relationship will go south, because he will notice that you are weary of him hanging out with them. If he really loves you then he will understand and the 2 of you can come up with an agreement. Best of luck
2006-10-13 09:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by soldierman69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does not sound good. You should be stronger and tell him you won't put up with his hanging out with these shady sounding women. If he continues (and I think he will) then it's time to get out of this relationship, even with a child on the way. It would be no life for a child. Make sure to see a lawyer re child support.
2006-10-13 09:07:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I already see that your relationship is not going to last if he still hang out with those girls. Seems like he is still attached to the past and he needs to let go if he really loves you and want to make the relationship work. Or else it won't work no matter what you do. Best of Luck!^_^
2006-10-13 09:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by strawberry_kiss_gurlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is a very tough situation. I am glad that you are trusting him, that is important at this juncture. I would sit down and talk with him, tell him how you feel. Because me personally, I don't think that if you are having a child with someone, you shouldn't be spending time with any other women than the one who is having your child. He has to be the one that has to break it off with them, he needs to be with you at this time, as you need to be with him. Just talk with him from the heart, and if he does truly care, then he'll do it.
2006-10-13 09:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by Light Bringer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 06:40:13 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and talk with him. Tell him how you are feeling. He should be understanding of your feelings and if he really cares for you maybe he will back off hanging out with these girls for a while. Good luck.
2006-10-13 09:04:44 · answer #9 · answered by gemone523 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be very young. If something 'happens' the blame will only be on him. If he loves you, he will not involve himself in anything that opens the door to temptation, including freinds or ex's. You might mention your feeling's, some men don't get it.
2006-10-13 09:12:05 · answer #10 · answered by Hatem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋