How do you come to terms with being gay?

Question

How do and how can I?

Answer 1

First of all you are the whole sum of your persona, and nothing more or less. Sex is just a small portion of character. Coming to terms with being gay, means accepting yourself. Many people find it difficult, because they place their own self value on the opinions of others. The first important step needed is to stop lying to yourself or trying to be someone you are not. The second step is to learn to appreciate the great qualities you have inside yourself. The third step is knowing you are not perfect and each day is a gift to enhance and learn. Work on those three daily affirmations and you'll do just fine. You can't love others until you learn to love and accept yourself!

Answer 2

You come to terms with it in the same way you come to terms with anything else. You take a long look at what it means to you, evaluate the aspects that you don't like that you can change, accept the things about it that you cannot, and live your life to the best of your ability, learning to appriciate aspects and perspectives that many are never fortunate enough to see or understand.
Be true to yourself. Everyone seems to look for a way to lighten their burden through life, perhaps it's time to find ways to not lighten the load but strengthen your back and heart to help carry the load.

Answer 3

It's not easy sometimes especially considering how you may have been raised. It surely was not easy for me. I was raised in a strict Baptist home and all but grew up in church. This lifestyle goes against everything I was taught in church to believe. The irony in my life is that my soul mate was in the form of a woman! How can I ignore that? I think that it will take some personal growth and many life experiences to help you come to terms with it. It's easier for some than others. You'll be ok! Just remember that!

Answer 4

I am straight and happy with my marriage with two girls in college. But, after working with people that are openingly gay, I feel the answer to your question is to actually accept yourself; anyone can come to terms with anything by just accepting yourself. I couldn't image being gay, I do believe that it is a Mental problem; I couldn't conceive it being normal. But, I had gay male friends growing up that were always nice and repectful to me; I enjoyed their honesty and being upfront and not fake. Some of my best conversations have been with Gay Men but, at the same time, I just couln't image two people of the same sex kissing and having sex.

Answer 5

Would someone PLEASE write a book on coming out and dealing with the issues of being a gay person!
Sorry, don't mean to make light of your question but it gets asked over and over on this site.
1st: Take it slow and go see someone who deals with your issue on a regular basis, like at school etc.
2nd: Get a support system going of friends that accept you as your are and other gay folks.
3rd: DON'T WORRY so much about it-you are still you just your sexual preference is different.
But most of all LOVE YOURSELF and the rest will come easy.
Those of us, who have been in your shoes, know what you are going through and it's not easy but we made it and you will too.
Love and luck

Answer 6

I always knew I was gay. It took time for me to have the courage to admit it to others, however.

When I was young, I was led to believe that gay people were morally bankrupt, and ugly, and diseased. My family taught me that they were all old men, unattractive, and that they hung around in smokey bars and wore strange leather uniforms and hairy mustaches.

When I was young, I knew I wasn't attracted to those guys. So, I convinced myself that I wasn't 'gay' like they were, but something else that didn't have a name yet.

I met someone in college. He was tall and muscular and young and very, very smart. Everyone liked him, girls and boys. He was quite popular. We became friends, eventually, best friends.

He admitted to me one night that he was gay. I was shocked. I couldn't believe it. Then something more unbelievable happened. He kissed me. I thought I was going to have a heart attack. He laughed, in a very sweet way.

He was confident and unashamed, and everyone but me knew he was gay before then. He was still incredibly popular.

That's what convinced me. His confidence was all I needed to find my own. We had a lot of fun together, and I grew up a thousand percent.

Find your own confidence, and it will happen to you.

Answer 7

It was really easy for me..I met my soul mate and 14 years later we're still going strong and I had been married with two children for 17 years....I met her and was gone from my marriage in 3 months..I'd do it again...just follow your feelings and after being brow beat a few times by ignorant uneducated people you'll get stronger and before you know it you'll be fine....

Answer 8

Realize that you don't need to live up to anyone elses expectations or prejudices. You will be a well respected, successful person who is also gay.

Answer 9

Don't worry about what other people think about you. If anyone leaves you because of this they were never a true friend in the first place.

Answer 10

honey you need to accept yourself for who and what you are. no other person has the right to make you feel as if you need to come to terms with who you are. you just are and you need to be happy in that. life is too short to waste with worry and self-doubt i know i am terminally ill and don't want you to waste one more precious moment with self-doubt. be who you are and be da mn proud of it.