My bf's mom snoops around to find stuff. To find anything... including my notes. She got pissed off and now I can't ever call him again.We're still together but she even wants to switch his schools just to get him away from me. Should she be put in her place or is she entitled?
2006-10-13 08:50:55 · 21 answers · asked by Hazel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She is entitled until he turns 18 and becomes self-supporting outside her home. I am a parent and I am sick of other parents abrogating their authority. If you don't like my rules, do well in school and get into a good college as soon as you graduate, or get a job and a place of your own. It is not an adult's job to give a child everything he wants; it is an adult's job to make sure a child is not misbehaving, and that includes occasional room searches.
2006-10-13 08:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont say how old you guys are so I will presume you are both minors. If he is living under HER roof and not paying rent then she has the right to snoop( as you put it) there must have been something pretty spicy in the notes to set her off like that.
As long as she is his guardian she can go through his room, personal belongings and even his computer if she so wishes, it is her house not his. Also you guys are running the risk of further angering her by sneaking around to see each other. So no she does not need to be "Put in her place" If you guys can take care of each other then move out and get a place together while you still know everything.
2006-10-13 08:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha ok well my ex did that stuff to me all the freakin time it was frustrating. First you need to figure out if its worth it or not. If you guys are really gonna last. Cuz if not just let it go and be friends. Or let his mom cool down if she gets over stuff fast. But damn girl what was in that note!!?? wow lol....and telling her something would only piss her off worse. time will heal dont force it. Shes the parent she has the authority so dont do anything dumb. just give it time and see if its really worth it. and if she wont let u guys talk ever again, then shes probably entitled cuz that note sounds pretty horrible. but good luck!
2006-10-13 08:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like there is more to the issue. Is he young? do they have a strong religious belief? that can be the only reasons why i think a mother would do something like that. If that is not the case and he is a grown man, it is not mom that needs to be put in her place, maybe bf should get his own place.
2006-10-13 08:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by spiseemami 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he lives in her house, she is entitled. How she uses that entitlement might be in question but I am not sure why she wants you two to be apart. I can't imagine what the note said. Interesting that you didn't say that.
2006-10-13 08:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by RJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok his mom sounds like my mom and you know what you do need to put her in her place. She needs to learn that you guys need privacy and that you don't just go through her stuff like that. She is his mom and you should respect her but you guys need to be respected to. Don't be mean but tell it like it is.And the whole switching schools thing is ridiculous. I don't think that she'd actually do it. Just put her in her place, but don't hurt her. You just need to let her know that you are old enough to deserve respect and that means privacy and trust.
Good Luck!
Rock On!:)
2006-10-13 09:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
where's her place? you shouldn't be sending inappropriate notes.If you don't want another to see what you write then don't write.That's his mother and you must be too fresh for her liking.I say that b/c you ask if she should be put in her place and she is a grown woman.If you were in my son's life talking like that I'd do more than she has.You should show some respect for your self and other peoples parents .
2006-10-13 08:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you sound like you're about 13 years old, and too young to have a bf. If I was your parent, I'd be concerned too.
2006-10-13 08:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you and your boyfriend need to show her taht she can't rule your lives. Your perfectly entitled to go out with her son, and she needs to realise that she cant control everything. Hope you guys manage to sort this out. Good luck!
2006-10-13 08:53:50 · answer #9 · answered by barbie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is living under her roof, sorry she has a right. Tell him to get his own place, that way you can move in with him, live off him, and get what you can like I did.
2006-10-13 08:59:56 · answer #10 · answered by SweeT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋