My girlfriend of 4 years decided a month ago that she has had enough. Her reasons for ending our relationship were b/c she felt like she always put more into it then me. On the outside, she is right. I always felt pressured into marrying her and into moving in with her. I always told her to "trust me" and everything would work out and just never wanted to talk about commitment until I was ready. In my head though I have been ready since day one, I just wanted to focus on building my career and my financials with myself before I could REALLY focus on a serious relationship. I have learned now this is silly, but its too late. I begged for her to realize and all she did was get pushed away more. She wants space so I am now giving it to her even though I am dying inside to show her that I am the one she has alwyas dreamed of me being. She tells me that now is not the time and we both need a break and one day she "hopes" we can fall in love all over again. What moves should I make
2006-10-13 08:40:42 · 14 answers · asked by blindsided1983 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are off to a great start. It's takes a very strong individual to admit their mistakes and want to correct them. Please don't place all of the blame on yourself, you didn't destroy your relationship alone. Pressure is never good in any type of relationship especially intimate relationships. Give her the space she needs and take this time to focus on yourself. Consider hanging out with friends, visiting family members, or building a stronger work ethic. Everything will work out...you'll be surprised of the outcome.
2006-10-13 08:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by silouette 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand the situation, the only difference is that I was in the situation of your girlfriend, It can be frustrating being in a relationship, that seems to be bias, i was there, your girlfriend is just tired of being taken for granted, and who can blame her, Give her the space that she needs right now, be there for her as a friend, and let things work itself out, what is for you, No one can take it away.
2006-10-13 08:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by Princess Dee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called an ENGAGEMENT ring. Men like you are so stupid, they make the woman sacrifice and sacrifice and then when she pushes you away guess what? You want her again. Well move in with her and make plans, progress the relationship, life is too short for these kind of games.
2006-10-13 08:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd wait a few weeks, just leave her completely alone, because she asked for space, have the respect to give it to her. you owe her that much. and then take the majority advise here... buy a ring and do the right thing. if she accepts you are in luck because you really had it coming... if she doesn't, then take her word for it that she really is done.. and let her move on, and move on yourself. then, as painful as this lesson has been... remember it the next chance you have with a woman willing to give her heart to you. good luck.
2006-10-13 08:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by leavemealonestalker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she says she puts more into the relationship, it doesn't mean she is ready to marry and you are not. It means she is a giver and you are not. It is ok, most guys are like that. If you were ready to marry her, you would sacrifice anything for her and worry about her needs more than your own.
2006-10-13 08:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good friend gave me this advice when I was going through something similar with my then bf. Let her fly, and if it was meant to be she will fly back when the time is right. Trust her to make the right decision, even if it isnt the one that you want it to be.
2006-10-13 08:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bro I think you are a little too late You should off told her what you just told us in this forum... But really you are too late. It's going to take a ring or something in that effect to win her back... WHY? Because you just wasted 4 years of her life... EFIL
2006-10-13 08:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
propose to her the most romantic way possible. You need to send her at least 6 dozen roses and make arrangment at a place where you both love and get on your knee and propose. She left you because she wants you to ask her. She is tired of waiting. If you are really the one, proove it. Ask her.
2006-10-13 08:45:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy an engagement ring, and then, holding it out to her, tell her what a fool you have been for all this time not to reach out and take what was right in front of you, and ask her, beg her, to marry you.
2006-10-13 08:44:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm no expert but I think you should tell her all this stuff, but DO NOT be a whiney bytch about it. That will turn her off ! Just be very calm about it and tell her if she needs some space then it's kewl. Move on w/ your life and let her see you move on with your life. I wouldn't go dating a bunch of girls, but I wouldn't turn down a decent girl either. remember don't be a whiney bytch. It'll get you know where!!!
2006-10-13 08:49:54 · answer #10 · answered by shooter77 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋