and neither of them told me. It was after my husband and I had sang at her cousins wedding. Now, I asked him if he had spoken with her after looking in her phone and seeing his number in her outgoing phone calls and he told me that he didn't remember but today ended up telling her hadn't heard from her since AFTER the wedding once he said that I knew he had put his own foot into his mouth. Once I mentioned that he told me back then that he didn't remember he told me we were at opposing views at that point as far as she went in which we were among going through other things. Since then we've both decided to rebuild our marriage but after he said what he said I felt betrayed by them both particulaly him because he's my husband and he's fussing asking me why is something that happened months ago relevant to today? I've already decided to discontinue my friendship with the woman but what about my husband? should I just forget it ever happened on his behalf or what?
2006-10-13 08:40:36 · 7 answers · asked by bettyspagettii 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He said they spoke about general things but it was like a 20 min. conversation and I asked him that exact day if he talked to her, so how can you forget something like that so fast and your not even 25 yet? He liet point blank and it's beating me up now because I was confiding in her as she was with me but still in all NEITHER of them told me that they had talked. As my husband I felt if she didn't then he should have becuase he knew how I felt about him talking to her in the 1st place.
2006-10-13 09:03:26 · update #1
If you honestly love your husband you can make it work. Ask yourself, was the conversation he had with her basic, or was it a lead on? I honestly beleive if you are with the love of your life, your soul-mate, then you will make it through this together. Together is the key word! Pray for guidance, and strength. Also, remember what you love about your husband. It sounds like you both need to rededicate yourselves to each other, and get that SPARK back.
Good Luck!!!
2006-10-13 08:51:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was the content of the conversation?
I had a discussion with my wife one day where she broght up something that happened when I was a kid, something I don't talk about much not because it's highly personal but just because it doesn't come up except in very select circumstances, but she got some details wrong that I never leave out. So I asked where she heard it. It was her best friend. Now I was really confused, and asked her how her best friend knew. Her best friend grew up on a farm, so it doesn't suprise me that once we might have been talking about that sort of event, but still, I have no memory of the conversation. My wife knows the date, the time, and what we were doing. I have no memory of it. I remember most of that day (it was a very memorable day for other reasons) but apperently everything else that was going on over shadows the twenty minute conversation I had with my wife's best friend. I remember being there, but nothing of what we talked about, because it wasn't a big deal. It was all innocent.
Maybe she called your husband for completely innocent reasons, so he didn't remember it until you brought it up? You didn't say what the content of the conversation was.
2006-10-13 15:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it is a correct decision to stop friend ship with the ex-friend. Your husband? You both need to discuss this matter. Tell him how do you feel. In the meantime, ask him to tell your ex-friend next time she calls that she should not call again because it has already effected his marriage and it may effect his family that he does not like to see it happen. If your husband does not care for her, he probably will do as you requested. Then you should forgive and forget. Otherwise, you need to re-consider what you really want to do if he cares for her.
Be brave, talk calmly and nicely. Screaming only make things worse.
Good luck.
2006-10-13 15:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by mimi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dang, that's a sticky one. It's probably best to just live and let live. Rebuilding the marriage is more important than some harlot of a friend trying to slay your husband, and luckily you and your husband came to your together to acknowledge the issues in the marriage and work on them.
It'll nag at your passive voice for awhile ( I too have been in that exact same situation, and in the long run it just wasn't worth the aggravation, I let it go) , but it's best to let it go.
2006-10-13 15:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
anything is relevant when in a relationship, trust and communication are vital---why were you looking in her phone info? you agreed to rebuild, but if neither of you have resolved this past issue, how can it be built upon? good luck
2006-10-13 15:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by phyllis_neel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she wanted to book you and hubby for the next singing gig?
2006-10-13 15:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would beat both of them. j/k Give it some time - try to let it go.
2006-10-13 15:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by Mia l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋