You should know that he is the same age as both of my parents, who are still happliy married. I really like him and we have A LOT in common. I'm very close with my family, but they are also very traditional. I just want to minimize the damage as much as possible. You should also know that the largest age gap in my immediate family (i.e., aunts, uncles, cousins) is 15 years.
2006-10-13 08:28:25 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Look just tell your parents the truth. They should understand. I mean you're 26 and you are an adult, so don't worry about something as trivial as a number. If you like this guy do not let society live your life for you. You will be fine.
2006-10-13 08:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, be sure to show your parents enough respect to tell them that you have something important to tell them, before telling them. Have them sitting down. Start by describing all the wonderful qualities of your bf, and don't hesitate to list off several. Then, ease into a quality or two where you can say that it reminds you of one of their wonderful qualities. Finally, say that, while you haven't made any commitments to this man, the time has come for you to tell them that he is older than what they would probably approve of. When they ask how old, tell them. If they don't ask, don't tell them. Be as reassuring, loving, and respectful of their views as you can during this conversation, and it will probably go OK. Do not, however, go into it with the goal of total acceptance, or you might go away a bit disappointed.
2006-10-13 15:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um saw this happen to a really close friend of mine and she said the same thing as you......we all just cringed and let her go about her life waiting for it to fall apart........about 9 months later it did. I don't know how to tell you to tell your parents, you are an adult and you can make your own decisions and if you chose this then hopefully they will support you in you decision. But be careful with this man....there is a high likelihood that this will not work out.
2006-10-13 15:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and tell them how you feel about this guy. Let them know you are just dating I think they will probably let you have some room. Although I don't think this will last, you might have a lot in common but You have even more that not in common and you will find this out in time I think but until then tell your parents and enjoy your time together. good luck
2006-10-13 15:36:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to bite the bullet and tell them. Let them see that he treats you well and makes you happy. Be prepared for them to be upset about your choice. Listen calmly. If the conversation gets too heated- just excuse yourself saying- 'I love you and your opinion does matter to me but right now I just can't talk about it anymore.' Avoid angry shouting matches.
Try to help your parents see something besides those 2 numbers- 53. Emphasize your bf's accomplishments, personality, hobbies etc. especially if they form common ground with family members. Good luck.
2006-10-13 15:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by peggy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is way too old for you. There is absolutely no way you could have much in common - I think you are just convincing yourself of that. You should be dating someone in your age range.
There is also something horribly wrong with him if he is going after someone as young as you (not that there is anything wrong with you personally). He must be deviant in some way - because, frankly, it's kinda sick...
2006-10-14 07:03:01 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest. if they truly care about you, which i am sure they do they will understand that all that matters is your happiness. but before you tell them, think about your relationship. how long have you been together? do you see marriage and kids? i mean be real, the guy is 53?? does he want to have a 10 year old kid when hes 65???
2006-10-13 15:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by mml619 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 26 yrs old, there is no easy way to tell them. I would do it without him present though.( For the comfort of everyone involved) I would listen to my parents concerns and then remind them that I am an adult. then I would arrange for them to meet him, hopefully they will see the same things in him that you do.
Best of luck.
2006-10-13 15:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok ,,, I want to ask you to ask yourself these questions first !!!I dont see nothing wrong with age differences as long ,as you are ready for the differences ,because there are some that will pop up .Because there is 10 yeas between me and my hubby and things has come between us .Ok realize that age takes a bummer on our bodys !fact!and wisdom goes with age !fact and you are younger !fact ,ok are you ready to settle with someone that will be much older body wise and apperance ?Are you ready to endure his wisdom about things such as money ,problems ,children ,are you ready to except he has been there already .are you ready to later on be approached by someone your own age and be able to say no .?Im older one here im 42 hubby is 32 ,and let me tell yah it has been rough ,he said all these things didnt matter to him but after being together 3 years in marriage he cheated with a young girl and she was with his child that I could not give him and he then experIments with drugs .and a money spender .so I have been thru hell me being with someone younger so just think all this over ,there are times his muturiety really gets to me ,because im older and age makes wisdom .so let me tell yah its a rough road for the both of you ,I now wander as I grow older will he still love me .?just make sure ,dont want to see either of yah hurt .BUT AGE DOES MAKE THINGS ALITTLE DIFFERENT .OK TRUST ME IM IN IT .....GOOD LUCK .
2006-10-13 16:04:38 · answer #9 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully your parents will be understanding, and respect you right to live your life. However, don't think there is much way to soften this blow.
2006-10-13 15:55:34 · answer #10 · answered by mandylynn77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋