why is it when you tell women they are beautiful, they never believe you. is it that you dont believe us or do you just constantly want to hear it????
another thing i have noticed. when a women asks you a question, they always ask "why" after you have answered. why do women want reasons for everything???
2006-10-13 08:25:45 · 19 answers · asked by xdfsddfgdfgdfg d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Women tell men they love compliments ... but at the same time they never say "thank you" and accept it ... most of the time they'll say something like ... but my hair looks like sh*t today, or you're only saying that cause you love me, or why is it always about my looks why not say something deep ... !
It's crappy and not fair for the guys ... it's makes them not even want to say anything in the first place ... I watch my grandma and grandpa do that stuff all the time ... he'll cook dinner for her one night and she'll say something like ... "honey that was good, but if you did this or that it would be better" ... why not say "thank you honey that was so sweet of you to make me dinner tonight ... How about I show you later how much it means to me" ... lol ... now that's something I would say ... !
2006-10-13 08:57:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are looking at the wrong person they don't believe. Some of us women have a low self confidence, so when a guy you really like says you are beautiful, well we kind of think you are crazy. It isn't we don't believe you, we just think you have something wrong in the head for thinking so. Not literally though, it is just how our minds work. And probably with some of these women they haven't had many guys saying that to them either.
I know for me it took me a while to have confidence in my looks and think that I am pretty to myself. But when my BF said it for the first time, I thought he was completely inside or wanted something. But he ment it, and I am glad he does. He also had a hard time and still does believing that I think he is handsome and sexy. So it isn't just women.
As for the reasons for everything, we like to be knowledgeable, and face it there are alot of guys out there that will do one thing and say another. It is just how we work, it helps us to build our trust in you, and think you are not as insane as you sound to us. We are women what do you want? Could ask alot of questions about you men also. ;-)
2006-10-13 15:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by prophacyks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is indeed one of the greatest mysterys of the universe. It is quite unexplainable because although they may say "Do I look fat in this" and you say "No" they will not believe you. Furthermore, you are called on this and accused of not being truthful. You're told "you just say that" and nothing more.
However...if you answer.."Well baby...it DOES make your as* look alittle big" then this makes Hiroshima and Nagasaki look like a kid lighting off firecrackers on the 4th of July. For whatever reason, your honestly is not questioned and you now suffer the consequences for telling the truth.
So I dunno buddy. If you ever find this out, clue us all in. In the meantime it'll have to stay in the file draw with the cure for cancer, where Judge Crater went and why there never is a problem with the car until your wife drives it and when you get in it she says it's not doing it now drawer.
2006-10-13 15:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is that women love compliments. But, don't over do it. And, yes, women always want a reason for everything. Even though women don't think logically, they want a reason for everything - which doesn't make any sense.
2006-10-13 15:39:40 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Main Event 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most the time when they have to hear that they are beautiful all the time and don't believe you is because they get their self esteem from other people, they are truly Not OK with themselves, if they have to hear it from others. But of course it's always nice to hear it,
they want to know more about you or the subject, that is how we create relationships. on a more deeper level.
2006-10-13 15:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by kimber g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they want to hear it but woman never believe they look good enough,
we are quite different creatures, Woman ask why because they are never satisfied with a reason, always has to be something more, that is why they go to the bathroom in pairs or groups,
2006-10-13 15:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not just woman , some think they arnt good looking because they feel insecure, and are pretty, some think they are beautiful the best ting on earth but a dog would run away from , they ask Y again for security reasons or insecurity
2006-10-13 15:31:30 · answer #7 · answered by a1_friend64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women who "don't believe you" have low self-esteem. When someone tells me I'm beautiful, I just say "thank you". I own a mirror, and it tells me what I need to know.
Re. your second question - it's a "why" question. Figure out why you asked it, and you'll figure out why women ask it.
2006-10-13 15:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Us women love to be complimented. It makes us feel loved and appreciated. It is when a man does not notice that makes us wonder if they care about our existance.
We are social beings and usually when we ask "why" is when we want to further a conversation. It is our way of showing interest.
2006-10-13 15:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by shakira1babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
insecurity. they want to know how YOU see them, because they have doubts about themselves and want to know if everyone sees them as they see themselves.
if they ask you why, they want to know the reason your mind processed the information that way. also to make sure you were listening and THOUGHT about the question AND the answer and aren't just saying anything so you can shut them up.
2006-10-13 16:07:42 · answer #10 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋