here it goes..;. im 18 years old and im turning 19 in feb, and i still havnt let a guy visit my inside lol if you know what i mean lol! :) but some of my guy friends tell me not do even think about it bc i've came this far without it and my exboyfriend thought i didnt love him bc i didnt give it up to him and thats stupid i thought i did love him but i had to leave him bc we'd fight all the time bc i didnt want to do it ... so i broke up with him after a year in a half.. do you think that was stupid i mean he was there for me alot of times but i dont know what to think i mean he still wants me and if i want to i can get him back, what do you think>?
2006-10-13 08:20:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Dining Out ➔ United States ➔ Miami
If it's important to you, then hold on to it. I personally think you should know if your husband is a good lover before you get married. But I would never try to tell someone ele that they need to be like me.
2006-10-13 08:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 18 you are old enough to decide what you want to do, but don't loose your virginity under pressure or to get someone back, not a good idea, it should be a loving romantic thing between 2 lovers, I never waited until I was married and I was 17, each person decides ther own time , good luck.
2006-10-13 17:03:02 · answer #2 · answered by deborahrumbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is very respectable and no if you are fighting because you are not ready to give it up then dont take him back. I will say that the older you get though is going to be very difficult to hold on to a relationship were abstinence is involved, simply because most people are not as brave as you! I say for now keep it up and the right person will respect you enough to wait for that special day.
2006-10-13 15:33:43 · answer #3 · answered by metalicgirl69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any guy that pressures you into doing something you're not ready for isn't worthit.
A persons virginity is special and individualised. For me, I waited till I was 21 and I'm so glad. There was no pressure and I remember every moment being as special as the next. I was comfortable and I love him and trust him.
Sex isn't just about getting your kicks. It's about two people joining eachother to give themselves to the other person, body mind and soul. To share that special connection of intimacy. You can't do that with someone who is pressurising you and isn't really thinking about how you feel about it.
Respect yourself. If you're not ready, then don't do it. And NEVER do it because all your friends have.
2006-10-13 15:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
make him marry you first if that is how you feel. Once its gone it gone, some people think this is a big deal, others dont. I dont think that just becuase you are a virgin that the man you lose it too will be any more likely to stay with you than if you werent. Thats supposing you pick the right guy in the first place.
2006-10-13 15:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by rand a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you asked this question in the dining out section I will answer appropriately.
Don't give it away for the price of a happy meal. You should hold out for steak and lobster, with drinks. If the guy willl take you to Prime 112 or Mortons, or the equivilent, then I think you could determine that it is okay to give it up.
2006-10-14 10:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready then don't. You don't owe anyone your body. There can only be 1 first time. Safe it for someone that you love completely and know really well. too many times, we are talked into it and then realize later that we really did not know the boy enough before and now realize that we really do not like him. never go to bed with a boy unless you like him enough to plan a future with or without marriage.
2006-10-13 15:35:11 · answer #7 · answered by bettyswestbrook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, how are you. I think waiting until you're married is the best thing that you can do for yourself and your body. As for your ex-boyfriend, I think you should only take him back if he promises to respect your wishes and wait until ya'll are married, especially if you are really in love with him. If he don't want to wait , let him stay where ever he is now, away from you. Good luck. Keep up the good work.
2006-10-13 17:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by 3boys,&3girls 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that is what you believe then dont let any guy try to talk you out of it. If a guy really loves you, he will understand and wait.
I think it is a good thing. Not many people think like that anymore and with all the diseases out there you cant be too safe.
2006-10-13 15:31:07 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. If he cant respect your choice then you dont need him. The right man will come along just be paitent you are young and have a life ahead to many things go around these days then to give it up like that respect your body and mind .
2006-10-13 15:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by tashafleming25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋