See the guy i married left me twice and then we got back together and got married. But i recently met this really sweet guy but we are just friends. I can tell there is a connection between us.....sexually and maybe even more. What should i do? Should i go ahead and leave my husband of only 4 months......or should i stick around and maybe this feeling will go away. Note that i dont want to leave him for this guy but it is pretty tempting.
2006-10-13 08:17:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The way I look at this is you have 4 choices:
(1) Leave your husband and hook up with the new guy
(2) Leave your husband and start dating many many guys and get it out of your system
(3) Stay with your husband, but have an affair with the new guy
(4) Stay with your husband and be faithful
Pick the one that will make you the happiest in the long run, not just today or tomorrow.
2006-10-13 08:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by Natalia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear:
When you are married you should never leave your hubby because you think " you are inlove with someone else" its just not sensible! What if u leave your hubby and find out this other guy is a fake? I aagree that there are aklot of tempetation, I can say from experience , but we should try to work out the pros and cons. Its hard to find a good man to marry and when u find that someone grab him or you will regret it!
Why u married him in the first place? ask yourself this question if u r unsure go ahead and live ur life!
Its better to quit an uncertain marriage now than get kids and realise that you should have done that years ago.
But remember don't leave for anyman leave because you deserve better in life and someone better! Goodluck!
Love SANAM
2006-10-13 15:36:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two should have never been married, he cheated, got a woman pregnant, you now want to be with someone else, why did you get married? was it just something that sounded like a fun thing to do? marriage isn't a game, you had to think about it before taking the commitment, how can you now say that the other guy you met might be the one. You and your husband both screwed up, he should go and raise his child and you should be alone and do some soul searching!
2006-10-13 15:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lord knows I've never been faithful in a relationship. But there's one thing i can't stand and that's being unfaithful in a marriage. ive broken up a few marriages and i'm not proud of that cuz sometimes it seems like all the guys i like are already married and they shoulda met me before they married their ***** *** wives. but anyway. if you are married, you already took the plunge, you made a commitment and you need to stick with it. you said i do, so you can't take it back and say 'i dont.'. on the other hand if he left you twice maybe you do owe him a little just and you should do your own thing. but tell him up front. dont lie about it, because cheaters are cheaters, but cheaters in a marriage are bad people that go to hell. the way i see it, you can cheat on people no matter how serious the relationship is because they don't own you and you don't owe them anything, but marriage is sacred, a sanctity, and that's when you need to be a man (or a woman) about it and grow some b@lls and do the right thing. it's all fun and games til your wear the ring.
2006-10-13 15:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by Justina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In reality only you can make this decision, someone from online cannot give you the answer to this serious question. One question you should ask yourself is why you married someone that left you twice in the past, you became his safety net. But you took vows with a man, you say you love him. Sounds like you are in lust with this other man...stick with your marriage, that is the honorable thing to do.
2006-10-13 15:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear one the temptation is the devil trying to destroy your marriage ,If you love your hubsand then stay away from this temptation,because you know that all it is .and you really may be sorry ,I have been married along time ,and there is always temptations out there but is it worth loosing the one you love and maybe getting with someone that will end up treating you bad .remember everyone is so different after you really get to know them .Stay with your man you married and took those forever vowels with .
2006-10-13 15:23:20 · answer #6 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really flaky or something? How can you get married and meet someone four months later and think he's the one? If you think you'd rather be single, get out of the marriage now before you waste any more of your time or his!
2006-10-13 15:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by pearl101 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh do what you want. No matter what advice you get you're going to pick and choose and justify your actions because you need someone to afford you just the right excuse. I've seen your type before. That's what you want. Only that.
Just do it and begone!
2006-10-13 15:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT! if he is "the one" that you are talking about then he'll still be there in 1 month, 6 months, 1 year....who knows it may just be a fling thing....definately don't sacrifice your marriage for something that may just be temporary....and dont abuse getting marriage. marriage should be a one time thing, its not like dating
2006-10-13 15:20:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember sex is just an itch, love lasts a lifetime. if there is nothing more then sexually desire for this guy then I suggest you stick with your husband. cause once your done "Itching" then who do you have to turn to But your husband.
2006-10-13 15:26:51 · answer #10 · answered by kimber g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋