So.. my aunt had an affair with our coworker.. My aunts married for 20 something years [since she was 18] and the guy she cheated w/ works in our office and has a wife, who was PREGNANT at the time he was f*cking my aunt. My aunts husband is the nicest guy in the world, and our whole family loves him. We'd be devastated if he wasn't in our family. Now everyone in our family knows what happened- besides my grandpa and no ones has told her husband and we all feel guilty. We dont care much for our aunt... but we dont want to hurt her husbands feelings. ALSO when her husband went out of town w/ their kids she had a one night stand.. im the only one who knows about this. We feel like we need to tell him.. but don't know if we should?? We're all tired of the lies... what do you think we should do??
2006-10-13 08:16:34 · 14 answers · asked by Susana M. 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
beating around the bush always leads to trouble . things could be worse if he found out the hard way. i think the whole family needs to invite him, be together and break the news. dont call the aunt.important for people to be present so he feels support. if he finds out and catches her for example,and figures out everyone knew then he would lose trust in everyone and the love would be gone. sometimes it takes a hard thing to make the correct decision.
if he's a nice man then he deserves truth because he has lived his life that way.
2006-10-13 08:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by wheresdookie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
TELL THE TRUTH...if may hurt him in the short term but if you really care about him you will tell him the truth so he is not living a lie.If he leaves your aunt does not mean he cannot still be in your life. I have a almost similar situation and I have closer contact to my ex-aunt then I do my uncle. Do you not think he will be even more hurt if he finds out you later that you all knew about it and did not tell him. I would be hurt at the dishonesty. Sounds like he at lease deserves the truth...........
2006-10-13 15:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by cyborg_2099 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay that is real deep! I think we should never tell other people's secrets...UNLESS is totally necessary. In this case your aunt's husband seems totally sweet and everyone in your family loves him. It sucks that he's married to someone who is deceiving him left & right.
If it really bothers you... and you don't care if your aunt talks to you for a while... then tell him. Especially in a time where STD'S, HIV, AIDS are just everywhere... we all need to protect are friends & loved ones.
2006-10-13 15:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by VWCABBY81 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I found out everyone in my husbands family knew he was cheating on me, and then I found out...I think I would distrust all of them. Your in a tough place. Tell her what you think of her. That really sucks!
2006-10-13 15:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by Hatem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone should just sit back and wait for the s--- to get caught . And believe me eventually she will . that way nobody has to be blamed for telling . God dont like ugly just remember that . and she will get caught. Good Luck and God Bless you .
2006-10-13 15:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach her. It's not your place to be the middle man in her relationship. Tell her you know. Make an ultimatum. Make her tell her husband.
2006-10-13 15:18:29 · answer #6 · answered by randomidentification 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
dont tell him, sorry but it is none of ur busness.
sorry to hear that though. maybe u should talk to ur aunt n tell her if she ever does that again you will tell him. she probably is unhappy if shes doing that. talk to her.
2006-10-13 15:35:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him, he deserves to no. hes gonna find out eventually, and it'll hurt less if u tell him now than if he just finds out l8r.
2006-10-13 15:19:26 · answer #8 · answered by neverland22 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call www.cheaters.com
2006-10-13 15:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of that! No matter what you do, it is wrong and will cause trouble.
2006-10-13 15:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋