do I reck my marrage and feel or do I stick to my vows and die inside?

Question

I have a husband who since our daughter was born has not touched me to make love. I have a lover who can't stop wanting me but he does not want a relationship...

I have stoped seeing my lover because I feel guildty but I long for a mans touch and kiss.

do I reck my marrage and feel or do I stick to my vows and die inside?

Any ideas

My lover is an ex who I see for a drink - I'd like to go further but don't, I call him my lover as we talk about everything inc sex.

Hubby apparently loves me and wants me, finds me atractive, we have spoken many times about needs. he just dosn't seem to ...

Answer 1

He needs counselling. It is something that is somewhat common in men, they stop seeing you as a lover after a child is born, because somehow it reminds them of their own mother. If he is kind and loving to you, try to help him out of this mental block.

Answer 2

Your hubby probably needs to talk to a Doctor or counselor, You also need to seek help , You may have already wrecked your marriage by cheating before. If you both work at it you can both save your marriage and feel. I think what you are really asking for here is permission to see the ex, but sorry I have to say your priority should be the man you already have. Exhaust all options and if that doesnt work then cut your losses get a divorce and see whomever you want.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Sounds like it's already recked, what I think you should do is sit your husband down and just talk to him. Let him know what you're feeling the pain that's inside your heart, ad least give your marriage a chance. But what ever you do decide to do, follow your heart.

God Bless You!!!

Answer 5

Take you hubby to counseling, if he does not want to, go alone and see what you think after some time in counseling.
If you give it a try and it does not work out - get out. You will be a better mom for your kid if you are a happy person that alive on the inside!!! Good luck
(I you leave your hubbe - leave for you and your kid - not for a lover!!!!)

Answer 6

Could it be that your husband thinks the kid isn't his?

It can be as simple as the blood type of the child excludes him as possibly being the father. We all took basic biology.

He may be trying to figure out if he wants to stay in this marriage with a woman who obviouly cheated on him.

He may be overwhelmed with the idea of being a Father and is forgetting to be a lover.

I think you two need to talk to each other.

Answer 7

Could be a medical problem. He should go see his doc to see if there is something wrong with him. Or, maybe there is something wrong that he's not telling you. Don't give up on your marriage just yet. Talk to your hubby and tell him your concerns and get some professional help. You will have regrets if you give up so easily.

Answer 8

Have you tried talking to your husband about why he isn't wanting you any more? Mabe he is suffering stress or something. Tell him the lack of emotion is driving you to cheat. Tell him you need to feel loved. Or write it all in a letter and leave there for him to read when he gets home.

Answer 9

I think you need to do 4 things.
1. Talk to your husband
B. Listen to you husband
3. Talk to your husband.
If you do these 4 things, all your questions will be answered.

and might I say, you should do everything you can to save your marriage. Especially getting rid of a temptataion that "doesn't want a relationship".

Answer 10

Try talking to your husband and see if there is a reason for this non touching. If possible try marriage counseling