Ok, My boyfriend cheated on me a couple months back with his ex girlfriend. He said he only did it because we werent really serious, and he was really confused. Then I moved in and he broke up with me, said he just wanted to be roommates. Then we got back together and I found out I was pregnant. In the beginning he was happy and ok about it. Then he talked to his mom about it and he came home and told me he wanted me to get an abortion. I told him no, and then his mom made my life miserable to the point I almost miscarried from stress. My boyfriend was telling me he was only with me because I was pregnant and that he isnt happy. Then one day he came home from work and said his mom offered me a job and all of a sudden he wanted something to do with the pregnancy. Now his mom is really nice to me, and he is so into all the baby stuff. Something about it doesnt seem right, how can they both make a 180 degree turn like that? He said he had a talk with his mother but I don't know....
2006-10-13 08:04:13 · 24 answers · asked by instilleddistress 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
maybe they are going to try and take the baby, or maybe they just wised up and will get over it. Either way you need to tell him to pop the boob out of his mouth and grow up! start making his own decision. NOOO I would not trust him at all, especially if he cheated on you. I dont think you should be in that situation at all..sounds to funny like something is going to happen to me. I would stay back from it and not get to attached and talk to lawyer and see what all they can do and what you can do to prevent it just incase. Sorry about your situation and I hope that everything will work out for you!
2006-10-13 08:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldnt trust him. He sounds highly immature. He shouldnt be telling YOU to get an abortion because HE'S not happy. If he's that self-centered; to be cheating on you and breaking up with you all due to his own "problems" it shows he's not man enough to help with a baby. When the baby comes, he'll have a rude awakening that the world doesnt revolve around him. ...Honestly, I wouldnt trust a jerk like that. Perhaps he wants to be in the baby's life so he doesnt have to pay child support? Just a thought.
I'd definately keep the baby- but not the BIG baby. No matter what, I hope all ends well for you- pregnant women of all people, dont deserve to be so stressed.
Also- keep in mind that it wont be healthy for your baby to have someone in his/her life like that. Children deserve 100% love from their parents- not just when the parent feels like it.
2006-10-13 08:11:47 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlie watch your back with them. I know from experience that something sound fishy (like your b/f mom). Been there done that. I found out I was pregnant in 2003 with my first baby. I was about six weeks pregnant. My mother-in-law told me that unless I has a paternity test done then she would accept my baby. I was marring her son in less than a month. From her rididculous questioning me and my soon to be hubby, she some how cnvienced him that I had cheated on him. I did have a miscarriage! Due to the stress and a really bad doc, my baby died. Please don't let them do this to you. Sound like someone might have turned around but don't turn you back on them. I haope that everything works out great with you guys and that the baby is doing good now. Keep you baby number one in your life right now and in the future. Don't let them mess up anything. You can do it on your on as well. You don't have to have either one of them around and if he isn't happy in a relationship with you then who is to say that he is going to be happy in a relationship with you and a baby. KEEP YOUR BABY #1!
2006-10-13 08:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by mommy of two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the expression "once a cheater always a cheater"? From what you've said, this guy doesn't seem very reliable. I wouldn't trust him at all. I would be very cautious. You should do what you think is best for you and the baby. If you are afraid that your boyfriend will cheat again or change his mind all the time, you should look for other options and be around people who support you 100% of the time instead of only when they feel like it.
2006-10-13 08:10:03 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be prepared for a life of misery with this guy. He is a moma's boy and is not mature enough to make his own decisions and probably not mature enough to take care of a baby. Either way the most important thing here is the baby. I'm sure that was what he and his mom talked about. Just understand he is not in love with you,but is willing to take responsibility for the baby. Good luck.
2006-10-13 08:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by speedracer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are strange like that. i would just keep up your guard for a little while till you feel they are happy. maybe someone knocked some since into his mom since she was causing problems. Watch out to make sure they dont try to get custody of the baby after you have the baby. It might be a trick. If they want to be there then you should allow it. Otherwise you could ruin a relationship between your baby and the babys father.
2006-10-13 08:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would seem that they perhaps both thought you were going to expect him to support you financially. Now that you are working I guess they aren't so worried about that. It is sad but sometimes guys don't like to take care of their responsibility.
I think that if this is the case it reveals to you his heart which is clearly not one that cares a whole lot about you. But if you haven't known each other long then that will be quite normal maybe. It takes time for someone to really care about a person.
I would stick with him and give him a chance. We all act bad now and then. Bless you.
2006-10-13 08:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by JAM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of your baby the father needs to be a part of their life. If he cheated once he'll do it again you don't need that.You need to move on and find someone that wants to be with you just because you are special. Tell his mother in a very nice way no thank you and then find your own job. I had the mother-in-law from hell and I had to distance myself from her. I was always polite and cordial to her but there were no warm and fuzzy's. Cut your losses now!
2006-10-13 08:16:44 · answer #8 · answered by Lanita H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't quite agree..... development down believe is a needed concern for me. because of the fact as quickly as believe has been shattered, the relationship is ended too. So, in the past I enable this believe being destroyed, I learn heavily all parameters, all situations, all opportunities. i don't end relationships in simple terms in seconds. I supply credit, I take my time. not too plenty besides!!! yet, I attempt... And whilst finally I end that there isn't any wish, that the guy isn't trustworthy, I walk out the relationship without guilt in any respect, no not common emotions. because of the fact i know I even have given all of the possibilities a threat and that they proved incorrect....
2016-11-28 03:56:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, I think you have a right to be suspicious, and I would stay that way. Be careful what you say and do. Sounds like he really needs to grow up and his Mom needs to cut the apron strings! Just go with the flow..don't be surprised if things blow up again, and if they do, time for you to run! Good luck!
2006-10-13 08:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋