anyone had to get used to socialising without drinking alcohol?

Question

is this difficult, if you have decided not to drink anymore, but most social events eem to revolve around alcohol?

Answer 1

If most of your social events seem to revolve around alcohol maybe you should rethink the social events you're attending?

Answer 2

It can be difficult if the only reason you used to drink was to be 'sociable' i.e. get out and speak to people. You may also find that some of the people you thought were a good laugh when you'd had a drink or 2 aren't quite as funny as you thought. Being drunk is not a spectator sport.

I still go out, my friends don't care whether they drink or not, let alone whether I do. I think the secret is braking that link in your head between alcohol and socialising. They don't have to go together.

Just try and be yourself, drink coffee or soft drinks, and if you find all around you are getting a bit to much for you to stand, don't have a drink just make your apologise and leave. You may be surprised at how many others may feel the same.

Answer 3

If you have been drinking for some time your more than likely to be socially conditioned to events that are alcohol related . And yes , alcohol is very prevalent in our society and probably always will be. So until you are comfortable with your sobriety it would be a good idea to surround yourself with other sober people. I don't know if you are involved in any kind of 12 step program , but not only do they offer a great support system ,they are also a great place to find alcohol free social events. Try a few meetings in your area and find a group that you feel comfortable with and start attending regularly. Your sober social life will definitely pick up. Good luck!

Answer 4

Whenever I was pregnant I was at countless Christmas parties, New Year's party, St. Patrick's Day party etc. etc. (I missed all the good holiday's when I was pregnant hehe) Anyway, it was hard but I totally got used to it. I know that for me I had absolutely no choice so that did make it a little easier than someone who is just giving it up on their own with no baby involved. It can sometimes be very annoying and people who are your good friends can seem like total idiots when drinking and you may not have ever noticed before because you were probably drinking too. There are people out there who don't drink and my advice would be to try to surround yourself with people like that. Me personally I started doing crafts and kept myself busy that way instead of going to the social events with a lot of drinking involved. It is hard but it definitely can be done and you will feel SOO much better in the long run!

Answer 5

It is relatively less difficult the more absolute is ones resolve... and easier still when one can avoid being noticed as not drinking. Always have an almost full class in ones hand. Or if bottles are the course, then make sure you take your own non-alcoholic bottles of brew.

Also appreciate that being sober and alert is not consistent within a group of people seeking to become benumbed. It will not be long before one has nothing in common with those who gather to drink. So, one shifts to other groups. Also realize that not doing that which is self-destructive is an alien concept to those engaged in this popular activity. Another group that will not welcome one who does not enjoy punishing oneself.

There are people who are quite healthy and actively social in ways that are positive, one has to search them out.... since they are rarely found in water hole gatherings.

Peace

Answer 6

I'm a non-drinker myself.

It really depends on how many people you know at the venue and how drunk people become. At any drinking establishment or event, there will always be non drinkers as some people have to drive etc.

If you know a lot of people at the place, then you'll always have other non-drinking people to talk to if your drunken crowd become difficult to talk to.

If you're somewhere different with a small group and they all get drunk, then you might find it boring - and may leave an hour before everyone else. This depends on whether you talk to anyone else.

Answer 7

I have always been a social drinker. I cut down drinking when I was trying for a baby and stopped drinking as soon as I became pregnant. I t can be hard when everyone is getting wasted. But, then there are times when I have had much more fun staying sober and have a good laugh. Before people knew I was pregnant, there was alot of pressure from people to "go on have a few". A good tip is to just hold a can of beer! You don't even have to drink it and no one seems to notice!.
Good Luck.

Answer 8

Yes: Had to get accustomed to this whilst working and living in a dry country in the Middle East.

Bit strange at first, but there were those who made their own and substitute smoking stuff was fairly readily available.

Did not seem all that difficult to manage "dry", but even here in Europe, one has to limit the alcohol intake if one is driving, so likely many others are going to have to deal with this as a fact of life!

Answer 9

nope. learned how to be social in kindergarten and never needed even one sip of booze! Seriously tho, if it's an image thing, just drink coke; folks will think it's Rum & Coke; or choose Sprite or sparkling water and have the bartender put a "twist" in it, and you've got a gin and tonic for the sober group! Then, sit back, relax, and watch all the other people act stupid because the are drunk. It's better than watching an old Benny Hill episode.

Answer 10

If you are used to having alcohol at social occasions, yes, it can be hard to get used to its absence. You are not alone. The best, and only answer is, go for it. Force yourself to do it. The hardest part is getting over the worry that you'll be too anxious to have fun (the fear of being afraid is just the worst, isn't it?), but you'll soon see that you can still have a good time without it.

Answer 11

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