Can having sex to much ruin a relationship & wear it out? Or can not having sex ruin a relationship? Is there a balance?
2006-10-13 08:00:29 · 12 answers · asked by desertmoonp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My just started dating this guy 2 mths ago & we don't have as much sex as I would to have. We definitly have it at least once a week. Should I be happy wit that? I don't think he's cheating. He has a lot goin on & we argue quite a bit, every other day. Can you make it & can love grow without constant sex?
2006-10-13 08:04:13 · update #1
I think that maybe we might have had sex to early in the relationship like 2 hrs after me meet each other but there was a strong connection there. I think I'm just as happy having sex with him once a week as I am holding him at nite, each & every nite. That's more of a connection then the sex can be.
2006-10-13 08:10:16 · update #2
Both can ruin a relationship. Young people, especially men, have a much higher libido than older people. Sex before marriage can ruin your life as it did the woman who wrote that her boyfriend gave her an incurable STD. She may not be able to get married at all and will need to dump the jerk who gave her the disease.
The idea of waiting until marriage to have sex is so you can get to know each other's likes, dislikes, philosophies, religious compatabilities, and child rearing compatabilities. If you are compatable in all those areas, then when you finally do have sex, not only will it be more meaningful and fulfilling, but you will already know you are compatable in other ways. Young men often aren't experienced enough to be really good lovers. That only comes with experience and learning their wife's body. If you are both enjoying having sex, then don't worry about it. If one of you is resenting it or not comfortable with it, then it can ruin the relationship for that one person, and the result of that will be a ruined relationship. Mainly, you need to keep communication open between you so you can honestly discuss comfort levels for both of you. Many young women don't understand how high a young man's libido really is, and are put off by it. However, if your husband is a really good lover, it is pleasurable for both and could only ruin the relationship if one of you becomes obsessive about it and it takes the place of work, social life, and all other meaningful activities.
2006-10-13 08:16:42 · answer #1 · answered by LadyLgl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it can. One thing that you have to remember is that having sex IS NOT a prerequisite to being in a stable, loving relationship. Contrary to popular belief, sex is not a need but a want, a desire. I think the problem is that many of us (humans) mistakenly label this desire as a need, and allow it complete and total control over our minds. Don't let your desire control you! You can have a great relationship even if you never hop into bed with your mate again. The question is: will the two of you be able to communicate well enough to keep the love going without any sexual contact? If you communicate well with one another, you should definitely have no problem.
2006-10-13 08:18:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is based soley on sex, then you can't have too much. If it is a serious relationship, I think it can wear it out because the relationship will not be able to grow on a mental level. Not having sex is a great basis for a friendship. There is a happy medium in everything, but there is no one answer as to what that balance is. have to find it yourselves.
2006-10-13 08:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by harleychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe it depends on the couple.sex is always a fun and important part of a relationship,because of the closeness you share.but at the same time any relationship shouldn't be based on sex, there are allot more important parts to it,that help carry on what you've started to Begin with.so to answer yeah i believe there's a balance between the too.but like i side before it depends on the couple.
good luck!!!!!
2006-10-13 08:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a relationship can survive without sex...Sex isn't everything and in most cases it is the cause of ruining relationships.
2006-10-13 08:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how much sex is up to the people involved, it can survive with allot or just at times, you have to work it out between the 2 of you
2006-10-13 08:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by a1_friend64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about this. Find the right amount for both. I tried the no sex thing and everntually got tired, no matter how spiritually advanced I thought I was.
2006-10-13 11:15:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love CAN grow without sex. Of course there's pure love out there! =)
2006-10-13 08:05:13 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course a relationship can grow . i think sex complicates things if it happens tooo early .be carerful and everything good is worth waiting for
2006-10-13 08:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there has to be an agreement on how much is the right balance
2006-10-13 08:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋