OK, my ex can not get over the fact that I cheated on him and that I married the guy that I cheated on him with. This has been going on for 10yrs now. When do they get over it?
2006-10-13 07:50:57 · 8 answers · asked by jb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Three reasons why I think that guy's cant get over their Ex's
#1) The hostel ex-boyfriend...................This guy thinks because he plugged you for awhile,that you are now his property & he owns the rights to the "Poo-tang". he feels that someone else is playing with his toy,so he automatically hates everything that has to do with you & your new guy!(but he still think you are his girl)
#2) The broken ex-boyfriend..............This guy think that by you leaving him,you're pretty much telling him that he is not good enough & that there is someone out there better. No-one likes to come in second or feel that they were'nt the best. so they feel extremly hurt & depressed & rejected.(he will cling to you just to prove to himself that he is the best guy ever & that you made a mistake)
#3)The low self esteem Ex-boyfriend............This guy thinks that you were the greatest thing to ever happen to him in his life period! & that he can never find anyone as good as you so why bother trying! he'll alway hold out hope that you will come back to him so he will never fully move on.
This guy sounds like guy number three if you ask me.
I hope that my opinion will help you understand him a little better-good luck!
2006-10-13 08:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by Scorpio Rising 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to keep yourself busy when the current bf isn't around so you don't think about the ex. It would also help if you stopped talking to him. You will never get past him if you continue to put yourself around him it makes things harder that way. You have a good guy in your life now and just because he's trying to better his life going to college and is really busy shouldn't give you the ok to see the ex. Find things to do while the bf is at school that don't include seeing or talking to the ex anymore move on with the new guy he sounds like he has potential to give you a happy life.
2016-03-28 07:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't color all guys with one brush because your ex can not let go...Not a fair shake for all the guys... I am willing to guess that your ex was head over heels in love with you, you took his heart and smashed it when you cheated on him and again when you married the guy you cheated on him with. You broke the guys heart and he will probably forever have feelings for you, even though you do not deserve that kind of love from him...
2006-10-13 07:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to tap it one last time, it's a pride thing for him. Introduce him to a girl you describe to him as your very best friend (doesn't have to be your best friend, just tell him that), but ask him not to mess around with her. Maybe he'll go after that and he will feel he's had his revenge.
2006-10-13 08:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jeffrey S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's one of two things. An egomaniac who blames you for wounding his pride, and still blames you because you are the only one who ever did that to him.
Or he is the sappy, love-sick kind who believed you were the one and can't believe to this day that you betrayed him.
Either way, you can't help him. He is the only one who change.
2006-10-13 08:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by nhein21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men take these thing different.
You probably meant a lot to him, and it just makes him feel insecure and inadequate.
He needs to find someone new, and you need to stop talking to him.
Best of luck,
Drew Bryant
2006-10-13 08:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by drew.bryant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno....probably after he breaks into your home and cuts your throat in the middle of the night.
You should expect that you know. I mean...after 10 years? I'd be watching over MY shoulder if I were you...that's for sure!
2006-10-13 08:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people never let it go and allow it to consume them....the rest of us get hurt, get better, move on with our lives.
2006-10-13 07:53:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋