A friend of my wifes and I asked me to babysit but I was in for a big surprise. She seduced me, should I tell my wife??
They have been friend for 20 years. My wife would never know but I was given an ultimatum, keep it cumming or the wife finds out.
What would you do in this situation?
2006-10-13 07:42:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Firstly may I just say well done for taking no responsibility in this scenario... 'She seduced me'... Like you had no control over it and once she decided to try it on you had no choice but to oblige. Like once you realised what was going on you couldn't get up and walk out? If you do tell your wife please make sure you don't put it to her like that as I think putting the blame on the other woman will just wind her up even more. Also don't try the 'It meant nothing' line cos that is just salt in the wound.
Anyway... The real question you should be asking yourself is Why?!
Do you love your wife or is your marriage already over and this is just a symptom? Or are you just a pathetic man when it comes to sex?
Of course if you want to save your marriage you have to tell her. By telling her there is no guarantee that you will still have your marriage but without that honesty your whole relationship will eventually become a lie. Cheating once out of stupidity might be forgivable but the idea of continuing to cheat to save your marriage is preposterous. It is better that this comes from you.
I think you have a battle on your hands and you are probably gonna lose those two friends. When you tell her my advise is that you take full responsibility, make no excuses, don't mention that you were blackmailed into it and beg forgiveness on hands and knees.
This other woman sounds like a real B*TCH! And really stupid... What makes her thing you wont tell her husband. She obviously has a lot to lose too... If you want to come out of this with even a bit of merit then you have to get in there first. If she tells all it will look like you are the one that did the seducing.
COME CLEAN!
And don't do it again. You have broken your wife's heart and betrayed her. Remember that the next time the wrong head does the thinking.
2006-10-16 11:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by â?¥MissMayâ?¥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're much better off telling your wife yourself ASAP! Don't keep the affair going, you'll only get f***ed in the end in the @ss and you don't want that. The friend of hers is not a good friend either, but the wife will be easier on you if YOU tell her TODAY.
And hope she isn't like me, because I would so be kicking your @ss.
2006-10-13 07:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by Chanel T 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She seduced you, huh... poor guy, I guess it was the friends fault because she knew you were incapable of saying no. If you do tell your wife I would suggest not using the "she seduced me" explanation makes you look very lame.
2006-10-13 08:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by ecogeek4ever 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should have left the first time, come clean with your wife. Continuing this affair is only making it worse.
2006-10-13 07:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by Bassetlover 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Since she is a friend of your wifes. I think you were just set-up. BUSTED!! Would be my best guess.
2006-10-13 07:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your wife
Honesty is best policy.
would you much rather she found out what her friend did you to from her so she can turn it around to be on you or would you rather her hear it from you in the true form.
Good Luck
2006-10-13 07:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why did you think with the wrong head,and advertise it?You jerk first,you should have just said no,and second,you give most men a bad name!
2006-10-13 07:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell your wife the truth
you are a piece of shi t cheater
2006-10-13 07:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
look like your going to be in the dog house!lol
2006-10-13 07:52:22 · answer #9 · answered by sambonesgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you hate it when a woman throws her asss at you and MAKES you take that asssss? Marinate in your crap dude!
2006-10-13 07:44:41 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋