She says she's joining because she just wants to pay off her student loans. She doesn't owe that much! She want's adventure. She's taught overseas! She wants to get married & maybe even have a baby! I just told her that I want to marry her and take care of her! But she just tells me that I'm just being negative and that I'm treating her as if she was a little girl!? What!? I don't want to lose her! So what do I do?
2006-10-13 07:40:43 · 12 answers · asked by benoutnabout 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
dude, iknow this is going to be hard, but ask her which is more inportant. i mean, she can't love you all that much if she keeps saying that. just tell her that you love her and want to marry her, but if she wants to join the army, thats out of the picture. it's gonna be kinda diffacult, but unless you agree with her, thats what you gotta do. good luck man.
2006-10-13 07:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by john paul jones 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If she wants to join the army and make a career, you should be proud of her. Obviously she is not planning on having a man "taking care of her" financially and all I can say to her is : YOU GO GIRL! Not that I want to sound pessimistic but life has sometimes bad surprises in store for us and a relationship is not a 100% guaranteed and our health, definitely either. What I mean is that she is right to be willing to be independent, to pursue a career, to take care of her student loan herself. Army will give her so many opportunity and a discipline that is so useful in any other career that she may choose after retiring from the Service.
On the job market, a veteran is always more valuable in an employer's eyes, so it can only be beneficial for her future. She will certainly visit other country and open her mind to other cultures (which she would never learn about, if she only relies on what the school system in America teaches you...)
So, just support her and understand her decision. I think she is being very responsible and mature. No matter what, if love is real, your couple will only get stronger and deeper through this experience...
Good luck to both of you!
2006-10-13 07:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by Flofy 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Support her, be a man. Don't be a nag otherwise I guarantee you two will break up. if you cant accept it then that's your fault. Its going to be very difficult on her. People have to make many sacrifices in the army, especially their time, So the last thing she'll want is a boyfriend moaning at how he misses her, how he has had a bad day. Remember she's going to be put through a lot of **** so be there for her. If you don't want that then leave her.
2014-09-26 06:35:40 · answer #3 · answered by james 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to do is not to smother her or she will leave..You need to support her and let her know you'll always be there..I assume she is very much aware of the danger by joining the military..I do support all the military my son is in the army and in Irag , so I totally congrats anyone who is willing to fight for this country but just to pay off student loans may be the wrong reason for joining, but by not supporting her and her decisions then you will push her there quicker..Just be there..
2006-10-13 07:54:18 · answer #4 · answered by Just Dreamin' 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's tough. I joined the army four years ago and yes it was tough on my relationship but if you don't support her, it's going to push her away. Being a female soldier is hard enough as is with out family and friends putting you down. I hope she joined. And I hope you supported her 100%.
2014-10-20 15:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by Kristine T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support her decision. My wife blew me away when she said she wanted to join the Air Force. The loan repayment program was also a factor. At first I thought she was crazy, but I went along with it. I quit my job so we could move to her first assignment. It's been a good gig so far and we are considering going overseas.
You can't tell her what to do, so make some compromises and remind her of the downsides to the military. If she still wants to do it and you are meant to be her wife, things will work out.
2006-10-13 07:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by CPAKeith 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2015-08-16 23:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her do whatever she wants. She is her own person. If she does, you can get on base and get cheap gas and go the the PX.
2006-10-13 07:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by Wocka wocka 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. She wants to have lots of sex alongwith adenture and army is the best place for that.
2006-10-13 08:40:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
She sounds kinda selfish and like she will do what she wants with who she wants to do it with tell her you are sorry she feels that way and you will be a big enuff man, not child to let her go.
2006-10-13 07:45:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋