if your best friend was a guy but he told you he'd love to be a girl, would you be ok with that and would ya still be friends with him. thanks.
2006-10-13 07:38:36 · 27 answers · asked by ashley 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'd probably say something like,"Going the crowd." But, then again you are asking this in the lgb*T* area, so your answers might be a little more accepting. By the sound of one of your previous questions, it sounds like you already are "one of the girls."
2006-10-14 03:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to be an EXTREMELY unpopular answer, but I think I'm a few years older than most of you ladies, and maybe a little wiser too. :)
I'd encourage your friend to seek counseling. Transgender tendancies are relatively new, and for whatever reason, the gay community has chosen to believe that there is no psychological illness playing a part in the decision to mutilate one's body.
It IS your job to be a good friend, and to accept that person no matter what. If you love him, you love him. But consider that he may just need somebody to talk to about his sexuality, or his body image, or his history of sexual abuse, or whatever the hell it is that is causing him to consider something so serious.
From an out, well-educated, professional lesbian, I hope that didn't offend anyone. But surgical mutilation is so much more serious than you girls seem to think.
2006-10-13 16:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by BoardingJD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always been the type of person that has never handled changes very well. I'll be honest in that this would be hard for me just simply because of my personality type. I'm also not the kind of person that could ever turn my back on someone for something like that. It's only the outside that would change. The person inside would be the same one you loved and cared for as your best friend.
2006-10-13 16:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, Heck Yeah! But then again you should know my life.... I'm married to a FTM Transgender, my circle of friends has many other FTMs, and my best male friend is a drag-queen. If he wanted to go through the change and become a girl I'd be right there brushing his hair!
2006-10-13 14:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by Alexis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course!
I agree with what many have already answered but why do I get the feeling there is more to this then what you have stated?
Do you have deeper feelings for him?
Do you feel he maybe gay and that is a turn off to you?
Too many questions are posted that leave off a lot of information and that can lead to answers that may not fit your problem(s).
2006-10-13 14:52:28 · answer #5 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, I have two M2F trans friends. One I've known since before She "came out."
Why wouldn't I be "ok" with it? It doesn't change who I am, it doesn't affect me personally, it doesn't make that person less of the person who I know to be my friend...
As a matter of fact I have more respect for my dear friend now because SHE came out and has taken steps to improver HER life than before. It takes emense courage to come out as trans. Thankfully HER family has also been wonderfully supportive. Even HER ex-wife and kids!
2006-10-13 14:47:14 · answer #6 · answered by DEATH 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he was your best friend, what difference would it make? Unless you are interested in more than friendship, it shouldn't matter. He would still be the same person that you love having around!
2006-10-13 14:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You might have to get use to it, but that doesnt change who he is on the inside. And he is just needs u too be supportive, since you are his best friend. You need to show his he can trust and confide in you.
2006-10-13 14:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by razzlelarue@sbcglobal.net 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure i would ,because that's what real friends do take them as they are he is still the person u shared all ur personal things w/ on the in side he just looks different.and look what he shared w/ u that's pretty personal 2 so that must mean ur pretty great 2 him just think about it . it makes good sense.
2006-10-14 03:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by djonecat@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course.....he is your best friend for a reason.....because who he is inside and the fun things you do together. It might take a while to get used to....and it probably will be awkward...but best friends are always there for one another.
2006-10-13 14:43:40 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Pea 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋