Hi, I have been with my partner for 2 years and moved to a another country to be with him. He is very rich BUT i do work altough I dont earn the money i did in the UK. My sisters have just been to visit and it as made me miss London and my family and friends so much..He adores me and i love him alot, its NOT a question of the money. He can be a bit controlling and i do all the house stuff i.e shopping and cooking. I have been unfaithful once I was very drunk (no excuse)and it was hes best friend. It has made me think tho. We do have a good life and i would never find anyone who loves me like he does. I know i'm a wan§ěř for doing what i did and i have to live with it....so do i stay? or go? I hate my job here and although im having lesson don't speak the language very well.
Oh if you don't like the fact i'm gay don't bother answering it waste my time and yours and it makes you look very narrow minded..Thanks for your time people.....
2006-10-13 07:34:34 · 13 answers · asked by tom b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If it's not about the money, then how come it's the first thing you mention? Seems to me like it was all just fine until he moved...now it seems to be an inconvenience. You say you "love him a lot" but yet you say he's controlling, and then you do his best friend...that's not love to me. I think you are merely comfortable with this guy but now wish you were back home. You're already whining about your job and the language barrier...if you loved him that stuff wouldn't be an issue. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Decide what's more important to you- him or your old life back home.
2006-10-13 07:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by answerman63 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you dont know what to do I been there and that was not all smiles for me I only can say that you need to talk to him if you do not like what is going on and maybe that will help if not then you can always seek help through a love dr they help at times I had all the money and all the things I wanted the job and the house but I did not have him his heart was not true and that may not be you but just be safe for the most part
2006-10-13 07:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by Ela J Pete 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, being that you were unfaithful...that is a sign. Did his best friend tell him that you slept with him? Does your man know? My most gentle advice would be to take some time for yourself to decide what you truly want....don't stay with him for his money - just keep working hard and go where your heart tells you. Good luck!
2006-10-13 07:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not happy you should sit down and think about what will make you happy. Make a list discuss it with your partner and then go from there. Never say never, anything can happen. Be true to you! You know the answer.
2006-10-13 07:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so unhappy, then would your partner move with you to the UK, since you have tried moving for him?? There has to be some compromise or you are going to continue to be unhappy. Hope things work out for the best :-)
2006-10-13 07:39:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go home for a vivit. If he is as understanding and nice as you profess he won't mind. That way you can see for yourself if you are in the right relationship. PS Get an AIDS test.
2006-10-13 07:43:22 · answer #6 · answered by CatLady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should follow your heart and i know it maybe hard trying to figure out what yours hearts saying and what your head is saying...i've been in a situation like this before and it's very hard but i ended up making the wrong decision and then i told him how i felt and he forgave me b/c he loves me...so if you make the wrong decision then he should be able to forgive you if he loves you
2006-10-13 07:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by dancer_babe357 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly believe if you have to ask yourself the question, then you should go. If you cannot return his true, honest feelings and you stay, then you are depriving him of finding someone who truly cares about him. Does he deserve that? Take care....
2006-10-13 08:08:53 · answer #8 · answered by Pale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel you can be happy there with him, you need to do something. Perhaps he is willing to move to London with you? You need to sit him down and express yourself. G'luck!
2006-10-13 07:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you call him your "partner" maybe you should leave. Why don't you call him for what he is. Your Boy Friend.
Maybe you should commit more of yourself to him or just leave and move on
2006-10-13 07:40:40 · answer #10 · answered by cjordan23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋