I've ben dating my mand for 4 eyars now. We recenttly took a 2 month break because we would argue alot. We jsut got back togetehr 1 week ago and things seem like they are the same. When we argue he screams at me raising hsi voice and uses the "F" word alot. I Feel like i piss him off very easily. Before- if he didn't like something he would go along with it and said whatever. Now- he yells at me and expects me not to defend myself. He told me he's seeing someone else jsut to piss me of. A while a go he called me and left several messages saying he's sorryf or acting like a jerk and telling me those things and that he had told me these things because he wanted to get a reaction out of me. In reality he REALLY hurt my feelings. What should i do???I love him very much but- i can't put up with this kind of treatment. I feel like i deserve better. One reason why i won't move on is because he's never cheated on me and really believe he never will. He's one of those faithfull one
2006-10-13 07:07:53 · 10 answers · asked by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't wanna move on with any one else because a huge majority of guys nowadays are not faithful and i have a 4 year old boy. I don't want to expose my son to many different men. He's really good with my son and helpful but- it hursts me when he gets angry. Ir eally feel like someday he's gonna beat me even though he says he s would never and so does his family. They don't think he ever would but he scares me. I love him but- what should i do when something about him bugs me and i want to tell him without geting a bad reaction from, him?
2006-10-13 07:10:53 · update #1
Being faithful isn't the only things a relationship is about. You have to respect each other. There are definitely a lot or reasons to break up, not just one. He needs to get his anger under control because he sounds half way dangerous to you. I would cut your losses and leave. I know you've invested a lot of time and energy into him but you do deserve better. Just tell him you're tired of fighting and that though you'll always care for him you can't go on living your life like this. You guys just aren't compatible, even if you do love each other.
2006-10-13 07:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to put your child FIRST and not what YOU want. Do you really think that this is a healthy situation for the child to be in? The situation with you the BF won't change...and how do you know he doesn't have someone else? He might well have but you don't want to accept it.
Also, why do you feel you must have a man in your child's life? He is better off with just you than you and some abuser.
2006-10-13 07:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by BITE ME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy really needs some anger management classes if you barely do anything to piss him off. If he doesn't get help, the arguments could escalate into physical violence. True love or not, you cannot put yourself in harm's way. Help him find help, and then move on. No man is worth risking your life for.
2006-10-13 07:11:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar relationship right now, my husband is very tough but he doesn't beat me and definitely doesn't cheat on me he doesn't believe in it.but believe me i was in your shoes and i wish i didn't move on.it hurts to admit Cos relatively its not so bad but at the same time it could have been better..you will do a lot of sacrificing and will be hurt you and your child.believe me that percent of the good times you are having with him now will decrease by the days so it is not worth it!
2006-10-13 07:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by monana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get busy with your own life, being alone isn't so bad....I would rather deal with my own company than waste my energy screaming and fighting and bs allllll the time....for what?
know what I mean jellybean?
2006-10-13 07:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by GiGi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I would get off *** an yell back. Show him what you don't like. Don't let him lower your self-esteem. Don't show him whose boss, just let him know that you have say so in this relationship to.
2006-10-13 07:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by Tia J. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one deserves to be treated that way. My suggestion is that he go to counseling. After he goes to a couple of sessions, maybe you could both go together.
2006-10-13 07:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best Answer
You like the BAD BOY JERKS that treat you like s h i t so you can have something to talk about with your friends. Just keep playing the game with him until he decideds to settle down with you and get married.
2006-10-13 07:12:22 · answer #8 · answered by Jake 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
YOUR FEELING IS RIGHT YOU DO DESERVE BETTER. HE IS VERBALLY ABUSING YOU, RIGHT UP THERE WITH CHEATING. IT IS NOT BETTER. VERBAL TURNS TO PHYSICAL. PROTECT YOU AND YOUR CHILD. MAKE THE HARDEST DESICIONS OF YOUR LIFE. GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-13 07:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO ENTIENDO?
2006-10-13 07:10:36 · answer #10 · answered by pldjrftb@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋