I have this problem,there is this boy in my class room and i havnt known him that long,but anyway hes startin to like me and i dont feel the same way about him,i just want to be friends,cause i only get the friend vibe from him,i guess its cause im too nice and i dont like hurting people,so what would be a good way to do about this? please help.Thank you.
2006-10-13 07:04:38 · 18 answers · asked by blastxgirl1820 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is a good question; thanks for posting.
Be yourself, and be polite to him, but don't smile at him too much. Don't bat your eyes or tell too many jokes over the next few weeks. Just keep your conversations polite and straight to the point.
Hang around with your friends whenever you are outside of the classroom. Boys are afraid to approach girls in big groups. If you happen to catch each other's eye, smile with a closed-mouth smile, which is polite, but doesn't convey joy. Be sure not to look back at him. The smile, look away, smile, look away thing is flirting. In your case, just smile but not too much, look away, and don't look back. That's a signal that, yes I see you but I'm not giving you any signals to approach.
I hope this helps. Good luck. Cheers, K
2006-10-13 07:08:07 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,and a nice way tell him that u just want to be friends if he ask u out!Tell him because right know u are focus on school and u dont want anything to get in the way of that,and by u focusing on school so much it might interfer with u you and his going steay relationship and that u know hes a nice guy and u dont want to be the blame for his felling get hurt so you would just like to be friends if thats alright with him!
2006-10-13 07:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the truth hurts sometimes... the best thing you could do for him is tell him as soon as possible that you only wish to be friends... it might hurt him at first but its only fair to let him know right away so that he can start to let himself get over you... don't be mean or nasty (im sure you won't! :)) just say politely that you don't have feelings for him other than just friendship... end of discussion... you don't have to tell him why, you don't have to explain anything to him, because you owe him NOTHING, other than the truth... Good luck !
2006-10-13 07:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two comments jumped out at me in your post: The one about being "too nice" and that you don't like "hurting people." I just want to break those comments down for a moment and then we can tackle the issue with "this boy."
First, if there is such a thing as being "too nice" its called not understanding safe boundaries. Sometimes we are "too nice" to people and "not wanting to hurt people" because we only want to be liked and we're afraid of being unliked by someone. We end up saying and doing things which in the end, make us feel stupid, and sometimes worse. So, my advice around this would be, "Love your self enough to set boundaries around what you will and will not do or say to be liked." And remember, your boundaries may not be someone else's boundaries.
As for "this boy?" Communication and honesty are the big key words here. First, define how much he likes you and why. This requires talking to him. Tell him about yourself and what you like and don't like; especially about boys, friends, and "relationships." Second, don't be AFRAID to be a true friend to him even if you don't like him. In other words; so few people are willing to tell us the truth about ourselves and sometimes we don't like it, but these are the people we can count on as being our soul's friends. They help us grow and become stronger people. Be this boy's true friend by telling him the truth. He may not "like you" but he may end up being grateful to hear the truth from someone and respect you later in life because of it.
2006-10-13 07:19:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down in the luch room and tell him you are not interersted. It hurts less now, before he gets all hung up on you and thinks there is something there. Some people interpret a smile and nice behavior as a 'come on.' Let him know soon.
2006-10-13 11:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight out that you love having him as a friend, but unfortunately, the feelings don't run any deeper. You can lead a heart to love, but you can't make it fall.
2006-10-13 07:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-13 07:06:46 · answer #7 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-28 03:51:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him cuase if u dont then he will think u led him on an if u tell him may be u can still b friends after u tell him an he wont be hurt as bad
2006-10-13 07:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with him= what if you get to know him better and you decide he would be a good bf??? Or is he just too gross?? Just a thought! Be gentle w him and kind - just like you would anyone else- D
2006-10-13 07:07:01 · answer #10 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋