I'm not experienced with same-sex relationships...but there's this woman that I work with whom I have a slight crush on. We talk and joke around, many similar interest but I just can't tell. What are some key signals to look for? How do I make a move without putting myself out there too much?
2006-10-13 06:52:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I don't know if she is gay or not, that's what's so hard to figure out. For those who are experienced with this sort of thing, what was some key hints or gestures to give you the go ahead?
2006-10-13 07:05:22 · update #1
Also....I forgot to mention that the other day she did inquire if a male co-worker of ours was gay. I said I couldn't tell, but she convinced that he was.
2006-10-13 07:11:04 · update #2
Do you know of a lesbian couple, especially one in which your interested party knows of as well? Talk about it. Muse about how something like that started. Present a hypothetical (careful) and say something like "I wonder what I would do" and then, if she hasn't made a disapproval clear and she hasn't volunteered yet ask, "What about you?" When talking in hypotheticals you get a general feeling, then bring it in closer if they seem receptive.
First, though, make it on a date. Go shopping together, have a lunch, dinner, or snack. This primes the pump several ways. First, sharing time over food always invites closeness and openness. Second, if you two are sharing clothes and fashions you've got each other looking at bodies and perhaps talking about how sexy one or the other looks in this or that item. You've already set a very positive stage if she is receptive.
2006-10-13 07:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a very difficult situation particularly WHEN YOU WORK in the same place.. It is just too risky primarily because you are co-workers. If she is NOT interested, she would blab all over the place.. I would let it go or...OR go out to a bar together.... Let her choose the bar to go to and see how she acts there.. if people(guys, or whaterver ) hit on her.. watch the reactions
2006-10-13 07:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her about her life or the people around her, try to bring up an indrect question about homosexuality. Like George Bush is trying again to ban same sex marriage or an unfortionate incident where someone got beat up for being gay. Something like that.
2006-10-13 07:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by l2wh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not experienced in Gay and lesbian relationships,but if you are convinced as the woman -man you are and feel that you are doing the right thing ,go for it and see what gives.feeling firmly as you do of your new found lifestyle ,you would be happier if you release your inhibitions and flaunt what you got.but beware,since firm convictions of what we believe in carries consequences and clashes with others who do not believe the same,good luck.
2006-10-13 07:12:03 · answer #4 · answered by delmy d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Asking a woman out is like asking the opposite sex out. You find out what she is interested in first. Ask her is she seeing someone male or female then go from there.
2006-10-13 07:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by Still_21_nheart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she gay? I would think you would need to know that first. I would never make a move on anyone without knowing how they feel about me first. It's a matter of respect.
2006-10-13 06:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have recieved many great answers to your problem and it would be wise to heed them and I can only add that, just because your friend thinks a certain guy at work maybe be gay, doesn't NOT mean she might be.
2006-10-13 07:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her about past relationships.
2006-10-13 06:54:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
with the potential for sexual harresment I would be very careful abuot doing that with someone at work.
2006-10-13 07:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by Tony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋