cheating how it has changed?

Question

I remember when cheating was consider as having sex with someone other than your spouse. Y is that society now have made up this (emotional cheating).I personally think that , If a spouse have a friend of the opposite sex, that he has not told his or her spouse about is not cheating, It will however cause a lot problem in the marriage.How do u feel about this?

Answer 1

If a man is *emotionally* getting close to another woman by *sharing his problems with her about you* or *opening up* to her in a way that he is not with you, but is suppose to open up with ONLY you in a way of connecting and emotionally bonding. Take that away from your partner and you might as well being saying good bye. And then YES, he is EMOTIONALLY CHEATING and is getting closer to the point where he has opened the door for this other woman to *WALK* into your marriage and *homewreck* your marriage. The same applys to a woman that is *emotionally* getting close to another man by *sharing her problems with him about her husband* and sharing her *thoughts* and *feelings* with this other man. You can be JUST friends with the oppisit sex............. on the *surface* friends..... casual hellos, how is you job going, how are the kids, man they grow up fast........ so on and so on. HOWEVER, when you start sharing your *EMOTIONAL* feelings and you start getting *EMOTIONALLY* close to this other man, or in his case the other woman......... then YES, that is emotionally cheating on your partner........ and the door has been opened wide up for physically cheating.......... and more so, hurting and leaving your partner. Blessed be................

Answer 2

This is an article I wrote and posted to my blog that should help...


"The dictionary defines cheating as “to deceive by trickery, or swindle.” It goes on to say that to cheat is to “act dishonestly, or violate rules deliberately.” In the terms of a relationship when the above definition of cheating is applied, the results of what is considered unacceptable contact with another person are very broad.

When a partner betrays the expectations of what is acceptable in the relationship you have to be mindful that the other will feel hurt, mislead, angry, deceived, or a host of other emotions. Their heart will have influence over how they feel, rather than logic, and rationalization. Thus, cheating is hard to define and depends on what you and your partner agree on what is appropriate, or inappropriate.

For example, some people feel it is improper to talk about sexual topics with someone else, deny being involved, develop a crush or commit emotional infidelity, and more recently, have an online affair. The list could be endless, but no matter what the act or how you define cheating, the result is always the same; the other will end up feeling rejected and abandoned.

Problems mainly arise because of a lack of communication. Many couples rarely talk about cheating, and when they do, it is usually not about what their expectations are, and what they feel is intolerable. That is when the room for error is allowed; you can’t break a rule you didn’t know existed - or can you? Some partners may very well try to use that to their advantage, which is why talking it out with your mate is critical. Open lines for communication will not only breed a healthy relationship, it will also allow you to avoid the pitfalls of not knowing what was out of bounds until after the line was crossed.

With that said, be sure that before you get caught up in the many signs of cheating, you realize that everyone is different and no one sign is a definite reflector of an unfaithful partner. Make sure you talk to your mate about the relationship boundaries of what you feel is or is not appropriate. This way you have a clear-cut view on how your partner feels, and can avoid false accusations that may lead to more mistrust."

Answer 3

If a spouse has a friend of the opposite sex is not cheating. Its when a person has an emotional relationship with a person that leads them to a physical relationship. Men cheat for sex woman cheat for emotional reason s

Answer 4

I can see what you mean, but the way I see it emotional cheating is real. Say my husband stopped talking to me about the problems we were having and was talking to a woman about it at work. At first it wouldn't be problem since there are no emotions are attached, but when he stops talking to me about problems all together and only talks to her it is cheating me out of a emotional relationship with him. Plus alot of physical cheating relationships start as emotional cheating. The person starts to believe that there spouse doesn't understand them and starts to build a attraction to the other person, because they believe that they do understand and love them. Then since the cheating spouse doesn't talk to his or her spouse that person doesn't tell their spouse that they are seeing another man or woman. So it not only causes pain but trust problems, and a lose of love. So I think emotional cheating is just as bad as physical cheating.

Answer 5

it is not cheating however if you do not let the spouse know about the person they will feel you are hiding that info. and usally hiding info is because its bad.If you are open and honest about having the friend it will look less like an afair.There is always a reason for not telling perhaps you feel the spouse will get jealous however if the spouse finds out they assume its an affair

Answer 6

I feel like that anything you wouldn't do in front of your spouse is cheating the relationship you have.

Answer 7

That is how my ex-husband's affair started. Now we are divorced and my son and I are trying to deal with the fall out. My ex is moving in with this woman.

Dr. Phil says it best - "if you would not do it in front of your spouse it is cheating".

Answer 8

Open and honest is my policy. If she/he has friends and it is just friends, then the spouse should know. This keeps problems down. To hide it could mean that it is not just friends.

Answer 9

I disagree. I see people everyday at work and I think to myself if my husband were to have a relationship with another women like I am seeing around the office I would feel betrayed.

Answer 10

I agree, It does cause some emotional problems