I have been married for 8 years now. Over a period of time he has lost interest in trying new stuff. Sex has become routine and boring.
2006-10-13 06:47:05 · 16 answers · asked by era 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a little shy and can't openly suggest stuff like this to him.
2006-10-13 06:57:25 · update #1
Then you have to be the one who starts everything! Don't be afraid of letting him know that you can drop it like it's hot! I mean that your still the best piece of *** he's ever had, and he needs to be reminded before you get tired of him. If nothing else have fun and explore for yourself and your pleasures. Find out what you love about sex and how it should be to please you. Start pleasing yourself in front of him, let him know your use to having orgasms, he just never around for them. Then maybe he'll get a clue, he only does part of what it takes to please you if that, you do the rest. Good luck.
2006-10-13 07:04:28 · answer #1 · answered by Hot one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Girlriend:
Please take the saddle in your hands now coz something is definitely going wrong!Most men loves wild and adventorous sex and if he is not getting that kinda loving from you then maybe you should ask yourself if he is getting else where! If he is not cheating on you or is not tired or fed up with you but is just bored with sex then you gotta take matter into your own hands! Here are a few
suggestion for you to try:
(1) Buy the kamasutra book along with the love oils ad other things- it got geat positions and ways you can spice up your life.
(2) If you are too shy to tell him what you like then show him in actions- let your actions speak for you.
(3)Try a weekend away from home or a second honeymoon, if you can't aford a trip away from home, send the kids away to your family, plan a romantic weekend and fulfill your desires by letting him know how u feel.
(4)Buy some porn videos with the sexual positions you would like and watch it with him- if he doesnot like taht stuff- like looking at porn go seek a marriage counseller, something is wrong!
The bottom life to any sex life , exciting sex life that is, is not being shy as a new born baby or a sixteen year old child!
It could be that your husband wants teh same but thinks that you will be turned off coz he senses that you too are shy! So you must come out of your shell and be bold , say to your man ur unspoken desires and bring out that sex crazed woman in you. Remember we women often forget that our men have little self control and if theirr wives are shy to tell them what they like they seek cheap women to make them feel worthy!
I f none of my suggestions are working, pray and go seek a marriage counseller , then you and only you can decide your next step in life!
Love SANAM
2006-10-13 07:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really MAKE him more adventurous, BUT you can tempt him to the wilder side.
I recommend gambling with sex. For example play cards and telling him "if he wins he gets oral for 30-minutes, but if he loses then he has to do (something MORE KINKY like oral butt play to you)". HOWEVER, you don't really need him to do it if you win, but it will get his mind thinking what sort of adventurous things you are open to and that might be what you need.
After a few gambling nights you can then ask him what he wants the stakes to be. I think it will be a "win win" game.
2006-10-13 07:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What works for us is taking a weekend trip and staying in a motel. You need a change of scenery and routine.
2006-10-13 06:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put on your sexest dress wear a garterbelt and black stockings under it, no panties, and when he comes home turn on some musci the lights down low and strip dopwn to the betl and stockings then unzip him and take him in your mouth, then he will take care of the rest
2006-10-13 07:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by paulisfree2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several books that you can buy for this. I found one called Daily Sex and it is a great book.
2006-10-13 06:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by amysbuttabutta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy Kamasutra illustrated. It has got plenty of exciting positions. Will definitely help you.
2006-10-13 06:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by cmdlet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can't brign it up, then just get a adult video and point out the parts you'd like to try with him....you really moaning out loud during these scenes may make him really pay attention!
2006-10-13 06:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over your shyness and take the bull by the horn. If he isnt instigating it you have too and watch how he reacts
2006-10-13 07:00:09 · answer #9 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll trade you, i want to be adventurous and she doesn't. Maybe we can work out some sort of a timeshare. :)
2006-10-13 06:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by medic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋