My boyfriend and I were invited to a wedding of friends he used to have from highscool or something like that.
We RSVP'd and all that good stuff. We tried to meet up with the couple before we went (he hasn't seen them in 4 or 5 years) and now we both lost our jobs.
We already had to borrow money for rent, and don't have a enough for this coming month. Yesterday, I got my cat from my mothers house from a play date and she is sick. She through up and she barely moves. What if she gets worst and has to go to the vet?
We have $50.00... I don't think we should drive 2 hours to go to a wedding, especially when we will need gas to make it to school....
We haven't even seen or spoken to this couple... is it wrong to suggest this to him?
2006-10-13 06:12:27 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have to take care of your own first. You both should lay low until you can get a handle on things. You can send a card, and you can call and talk to your friends as to why you didn't show, but under the circumstances I think it's a perfectly good thing to do, and yes, you should suggest this!
Good luck to you both.
2006-10-13 06:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not wrong. He hasn't seen them in years......... how close could he possibly be.... and the two of you should come first... no matter what. You don't have the money, and that $50. should be spent wisely and made to last as long as you two can stretch it. I hope you both find jobs again soon......... I know you need the money. Once you both are working again, you can send the newly weds a nice card with a little cash saying your sorry you missed the wedding and wanting to be there, but hard times made it difficult to go. You can send them a proper gift to go with your card and the little cash........... and wish them a happy time on the honeymoom they had. Blessed be................. where there is a will, there is Always a way.
2006-10-13 13:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a good suggestion. There are other priorities in your life right now. Approach your boyfriend carefully. He may feel guilty about losing touch with this particular friend and think that driving to see him get married will make up for it. The reality is that you'll talk to him for a maximum of two minutes, possibly catch up with some of his old friends and dine on generic banquet food. Spare the cash for the gift and gas and stay home. Good luck.
2006-10-13 13:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by sounsure90211 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dont go to the wedding. It wont be the end of the world. And if the couple really cares and wonders where you are and is extremely bothered by this, they would call. You havnt seen then in 4 years? not a huge loss.
2006-10-13 13:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go because your life is hell right now but you still have each other. Enjoy yourself. All that other crap will work out. Plus, maybe by chance you will meet someone immportant, or network with some of the people there. It will give you a chance to dress up, look nice and smile. Take pictures and have fun. Thee food and drink are taken care of. Let us know how much fun you had
2006-10-13 13:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by BDP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will be tension whether you speak to him or not. I think you should suggest it to him because it is the adult thing to do. Whether he agrees or not, you voiced your concern and you can discuss it together. (I don't think you should attend.) Being a couple means sharing the good and the bad, making sacrifices and making decisions together. You may not see it this way, but this is a good test of how things will go later.
Good luck.
2006-10-13 13:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you need to do- send a beautiful card with your best wishes- on a separate note inside (so they can keep the card) write your apology and suggest that you take them to dinner when things cool down or get less crazy- if they are nice people they will completely understand- the best wishes are the main thing if they are cool-----
2006-10-13 13:18:07 · answer #7 · answered by ARTmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong at all. I think anytime you fall into financial problems, it's best to talk about them and review your budget.
If you don't have the chance to make it to the wedding, it's not a big deal- sending a card with your best wishes is just as thoughtful.
Good luck!
2006-10-13 13:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by candy- capped 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I think you already have your answer. But mail them a card(a cheap one) and send your best wishes and all that jazz. They'll appreciate being remembered, and there isn't a person alive who couldn't sympathize! Good luck with your job search, hope your kitty gets well soon!
2006-10-13 13:20:25 · answer #9 · answered by CharlieCat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life happens!
if you can't make it--its not the end of the world...just let the couple know that your unable to make it! even just send a card
letting them know! They have more important things to worry about at the moment-so don't feel bad!
2006-10-13 13:18:40 · answer #10 · answered by f4fanactic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋