My boyfriend of 4 yrs,
2006-10-13 06:10:45 · 7 answers · asked by nikel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I love him with all my heart and he just says he wants to see me in a mercedes and living the dream....my thing is...i live for LOVE not money....we make good money now he is just 22 yr andim 24 and feel he is just thinkn money right now, he says he does love me but i do not want him to own this bar for fear it willbe the end of us. Please help i dnt want to break up i want to work it out, any suggestions, im soo freakn depressed and dont know what to do?
this is 4 years that has been watsed with my son
2006-10-13 06:13:13 · update #1
Wow, you sound a lot like me. My boyfriend has three real estate properties he oversees, is an editor for a food mag, owns a sushi production company, and just opened a cafe! I never see him. He rarely calls, and we do nothing romantic. Do I get fed up? Hellz yeah. Did I complain and explode? OH YEAH. And can I change one thing without changing him? Um, nope. But you know what? I'll take what I can get. He loves me, and my three year old, he's a good person and just has huge dreams. Things will get better, they'll calm down eventually. And you're gonna be his rock of support...that is.....if he's worth it to you???
2006-10-13 06:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by CharlieCat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him buy the bar and you go be co manager with him. You know work in the bar and if he says no then you tell him it is either the bar or me . And if he says the bar then you know where you stand with him and that means he does not respect you and you need to move on if that happens.Because some ppl are so career driven they cannot see the forrest from the trees. If he does buy the bar and keeps driving himself like he does he will grow old alone . Believe me I have seen it happen.Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-10-13 13:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him you should tell him how you feel about the bar...as far as everyone else who owns a bar and their marital status...that's irrelevant to you relationship...He sounds like quite the businessman and you either support his business endeavors or you don't....BUT that's O.K....you should find a way to spend more time with each other unless the small things don't matter to you in which case if you want a man to be there 24/7 you must wont a BUM.... I think you two should sit down and have a talk because it sounds like neither of you are putting 100% effort to the relationship..GOOD LUCK
2006-10-13 13:20:14 · answer #3 · answered by loverboy23 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you tell him to put the bar in both your names , as some security for you, and a bar can be a good investment, and you dont have to be married to put it in both your names.if you are gonna work there and help him, why not??
2006-10-13 13:13:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he loves money first, and fun sounds like a $ maker. he wants to see in in that nice car, when will he see you ? you do not have a ring. HELLO.... i think he may love you some.. but sounds to me like he will always be this way, cause he will haye to be the same to keep it all in coming years. you will spend your life in FOLLOWING his DREAMS. YOU KID NEEDS MOMMY. NOT MOMMY WASTING TIME BABYSITTING A MAN AND HIS DREAMS. MY HUSBAND WANTS ME AND our LIFE I KNOW CAUSE, HE SHOWS ME WITH HIS ACTIONS. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THEN WORDS!!!!
2006-10-13 13:25:12 · answer #5 · answered by Gayle M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A very complicated situation but you'll have to talk to him. There is no other solution. You'll have to ask him "whom does he love more-his work or you'. Just go ahead and ask him....
2006-10-13 13:15:23 · answer #6 · answered by Giggles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i would do is say yes but you just have to tell him not to be getting drunk and flurting so tell him he can but no drinking and flurting
2006-10-13 13:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by Justice L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋