he tells her that if she doesn't he does not want to be with her anymore.....he's got no children either he is 31 yrs old...do you think he will reconcider his opinion?
2006-10-13 06:09:42 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
He's the backside of a donkey(sorry to insult the donkey). On one hand knowing a kid could be coming is very scary. On the other why would he not want to see her because they got pregnant. Just trying to use her feelings for him against her. Pretty crappy thing to do but I think there is a good possibility that all will be well. It's a tough time and situation.
2006-10-13 06:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by Carp 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing that he won't reconsider. Also, I would point out to her that if this is how he is going to act, maybe he's not right for her, although this is a tough way to find that out. It sounds like this guy needs to do some growing up and be more responsible, since he knew the risks before they had sex and now wants to avoid the consequences of an action that was as much his choice as hers. My advice would be to carry the child to term and then decide if she wants to keep him/her or consider adoption. If she decides to keep the child, she has the right to go after him for child support, or to ask him to sigh away his parental rights. If she chooses adoption, she will most likely need him to sign off on it, but it sounds like he wouldn't have a problem with that. Other than my personal beliefs, which I don't think are fair to impose on other people, I would not recommend an abortion because there are health risks involved, including death (not very common) or the inability to ever have children again, if she should want to later. If she is seriously considering an abortion, make sure she finds out about all the risks before she goes through with it. In some areas, the doctors legally don't have to tell you the risks of the procedures, from what I have heard.
2006-10-13 06:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by Jonathan R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your baby regardless, you be surprised how family and friends will spontaneous come forward to help you if it gets close to delivery time.I think also that your bf will turn around and stand by you. I can't tell you enough what a great wonder your own child is. If you go for it I am convinced you will think back about my words many moons from now. Signed a proud father ( 67 years of age ) of a 2 1/2 year old son and a 7 month old baby girl ( photongraaf@yahoo.com ) you want to talk, enter my address into yahoo messenger. I wish you all the luck.
2006-10-13 06:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by photongraaf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... he will most likely not reconsider...
she needs to tell him "okay, well... see ya then." because her child is more important than some loser 31 year old man that can't take responsibility. I can guarentee that there is a 99% chance that after she has the abortion, he is going to leave her anyway. I have NEVER seen a couple last after the woman has an abortion because of the man (and its always him who walks out about a week to a month later and gets a new girl)
2006-10-13 06:14:50 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think he will ever change his mind about the situation.
Please tell your friend not to make such an important decision just because a man threatens to leave. If he is threatening to leave her if she does not have an abortion, he is no man at all, and he will leave her for another reason anyway down the road.
I am not hip on the abortion side of it. But I will not tell another woman what they can not do with there own bodies.
But don't let her make this life changing decision just for a man there are plenty of fish in the sea, and this decision could haunt her for the rest of her life.
2006-10-13 06:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by sisinlovewithyou 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He might change his mind later. Or he's a loser, which would be no surprize. Your friend should NOT base her decision on what he thinks. If she has an abortion SHE will be the one who has to live with the consequences the rest of her life, not him. If something goes wrong SHE is the one who faces the risk of never having kids or getting some other horrible complications. SHE is the one who will have to live with the emotional pain. As far as I would be concerned he can go f*ck himself, until the baby is born when she should take him to court for child support. Believe me that is not the kind of guy she wants to be with, someone who would give her an ultimatum like that and threaten to leave her just because she doesn't want to do something horrible like kill her baby. Tell her not to give him the chance to leave, she should leave him first.
2006-10-13 06:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by brainy_ostrich 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He probably won't reconsider. Doesn't matter what he says. It's her body, she can keep the baby if she wants to. If he's gonna be a dick and leave her if she doesn't get an abortion then she shouldn't be with him anyway. Just make sure she talks to a lawyer if she wants help from him. I'd tell your friend to leave him either way, what kind of a man says something like that?
2006-10-13 06:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by ~mj~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first of all, if your friend listens to her boyfriend just because she's afraid he will leave her, then that wouldn't be very wise. obviously he's not ready for that type of committment in a relationship. there are other people out there, i promise! you're friend needs to decide what she wants, it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks. personally, i'm against killing babies but if that's what she wants to do then i guess that's up to her, not her boyfriend, mother, father, or even you. i was with this guy for a year and a half and he stole alot of money from my parents and so i had no choice but to leave him, and i found out the next day i was pregnant! try that on for size! but i couldn't be happier. i thought he was the only one for me also but that's only because i didn't give myself enough credit. after we broke up, i was single for about 2 months and then i met this wonderful guy and he has totally changed my way of thinking. he's everything my ex wasn't. and the best part is, he's willing to be the father of my child. i am almost 19 years old and he will be 21 pretty soon so i know that if i can find someone as good as i did, then so can your friend. she is older, therefore she might have a better chance at finding a mature man that wants to start a family. i am very fortunate and blessed to have the man i have. he was totally sent from God. i had nothing to do with it because i quit searching after me and my ex broke up and concentrated more on raising this baby. sure i was depressed not being with anyone, but i new that there was hope for me. i just had to wait and that's exactly what i did. now i'm not saying you're friend will find someone in 2 months. it may be longer or it may be before then, but i do know she will find someone very special that will want to raise that child with her. so the first step she needs to take is to sit down and think about how much she really cares about this guy. does she care more about him than herself or her own child? is he worth losing a baby over? there are so many questions she needs to ask herself and you can help her. she just doesn't need to think so low of herself, that this guy is the only one she can get because that's not at all true! trust me! good luck with everything!
2006-10-13 06:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, he most likely will not.
Your friend should make the decision she feels is right. Then she should get into counciling. This situation is not all his fault. She probably knew he was an irresponsible coward and spread her legs for him, anyway. That makes her just as big a loser. She'll find herself in this situation again unless she learns to change.
2006-10-13 06:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is her choice. If she feels she is able to raise the child on her own, then she should. If she ops to abort because it is HER decision, then she should.
If she does keep the child, she needs to make sure the child will be cared for financially by the father. If he choses to be in the kids life physically, that's up to him.
2006-10-13 06:18:04 · answer #10 · answered by Crazymom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋