2006-10-13 06:05:52 · 8 answers · asked by loverboy23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The right time is when you feel it in your heart that you can be with this person and love and accept everything about them for the rest of your lives. It's easy to love someone, but not so easy to make such a committment FOREVER. When she's ready, if you love her, you'll still be ready, and if things don't work out, then it was probably for the best that you didn't tie the knot.
2006-10-13 06:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are with this guy and are obviously thinking about marrying him, sharing your life with him and spending the rest of your life with him, sharing the good and the bad, then you obviously love him. It's normal to be scared, it's normal to have second thoughts and doubts about marriage...hey, it's a huge step that is changing your whole life, your future. But let me tell you something, if you are ready and willing to be with him forever, through thick and thin and can't picture yourself with anyone else, you truly love him. If you're not ready, then you're not ready, don't push yourself or force yourself to do and act when you can't. Just take your time and it will all flow as it should, and if this guy really loves you, he will give you time to deal with what you have to, to be completely sure before you take this big step. My advice, just take your time, wait until you are completely sure, without a doubt that the time to get married is when you feel it. Don't rush into anything when you are scared or doubtful, just wait and know that you have someone you love and who loves you back. He will wait if he loves you. Only time will tell.
2006-10-13 13:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by Melina I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not ready for marriage then just tell them~ Say you want a longer engagement? Or else if you don't feel your ready...really think of why you aren't ready! In a lot of situations timing isn't perfect- but if you can't picture your life without this person....then maybe you should just go for it! Everyone is a little afraid and apprehensive but when you meet "the one" the will help you figure things out...All i know is people do crazy things for the people they live..... Example: my friend met a guy online- and moved her entire life to be with him....she didn't necessarily feel it was the right time but she realized if she didn't do this she may lose him forever!!! Go with what feels right in your heart~!
2006-10-13 13:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by Alesha W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can truly say I love my man ... want to marry him but I'm just not ready yet ... I've been married once already ... have a 4 yr old daughter ... and want things to be set in stone before I get married again ... I want to feel completely secure - Emotionally, Financially, Physically & really make sure he has that special relationship with my daughter ... If that means being " Engaged " for a few years that's fine with me ... !
2006-10-13 13:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been "not ready" in general, I have only been "not ready" to marry a particular person - but then, I knew I would never have been "ready", it was just not the right fit (regardless if we were infatuated with each other or not).
2006-10-13 13:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love him, then you will be ready. If they are stalling then maybe it is time to reconsider the relationship. I had relationships where I "loved" them but they were not marriage material. I met my husband and knew immediately that he was the one. within 6 mos we were married. People who stall are obviously not ready or unsure. If you are ready, give them an ultimatum. Me or the road. Sorry and good luck...
2006-10-13 13:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, marriage is really a hard decision for women!! Oh, he pays for everything while I am an overpaid maid and hooker. COME ON!! the guy should be the scared one, she can take your house and your kids from you with no problem.
2006-10-13 13:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you know that you can live with the guy and not get to annoyed with his bad habbits! :)
2006-10-13 13:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by Not so Innocent 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋