My girlfriend broke up with me...she says she doesent love me anymore (after 2 yrs and 5 months) and her love is just gone...im 99.9% sure shes just saying this to try and get over me...i know she still loves me...and I WANT HER BACK!!! what are some things i could do to win her back...i broke her trust...thats why we broke up...plz dont be a jackass about this...i really do love this girl...
2006-10-13 05:02:13 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i did something a year and 2 months ago...and i lied about it...and i recently told her the truth ON MY OWN...because i diddnt want 2 lie to her anymore
2006-10-13 05:08:10 · update #1
Oh boy, the broken trust thing. Well most people say that you will get over being deceived, but take it from me, you don't. The trust is not there, and I don't think it ever will be. She has to give you some credit though, you told her of your own free will. I would just give her some space for a while. Tell her exactly how you feel about her and your reasons for finally telling her about what you did. If she loves you truely, she will try to give you a chance, once. I hope you understand, this won't be easy for her, and she will have hard times with it, but the ball is in your court now, it's up to you to prove yourself to her and keep on proving yourself. This is the only way I feel it can work. Good luck to you, you seem like a genuine guy, most guys would try to get away with lying about what they did and hope they never get caught. It's obvious you have a consience.
2006-10-13 05:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking someone's trust in you is a serious matter. You didn't mention the nature of your "offense", but it must have been serious enough for her to dump you. If you are serious about re-dressing this situation, then get some professional counseling that will help you "uncover" your motivations to betray her. By finding out why you sabotaged this relationship, you'll grow emotionally and will learn from this experience. You might tell this girl that you are seeing a counselor because you want to learn why you violated her trust. That would be an authentic and sincere gesture of humility. Perhaps after that, she might give you another chance...
2006-10-13 12:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking trust is a rough thing. Speaking from a womans point of view I would say you have about a 10% chance of her ever being able to trust you again. Even if you get back together it's always going to be in her mind what you are doing. Like 2 years could go by and u can tell her u have to work late and she is always going to doubt it. I would say your best bet is to try to get her to beleive you'll never do it again. Good Luck.
2006-10-13 12:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From someone who lost her love for her ex fiance, you really can lose your love for someone, expecially after you broke her trust. You didnt care about her love before you broke her trust so why do you now? You've realized what you've lost but hun sometimes its to late once us girls lose the feelings we can't get them back. You still care for the person and still have love for them but you dont love them in the way that you want to be with them. Honestly, if she wants you back and if it's true love she'll come back or thing's will fall into place. Don't push her into a relationship she doesnt want to be in, thats the worst thing you could do. Good Luck.
2006-10-13 12:07:03 · answer #4 · answered by jaide1108 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really loved her you wouldn't have broken the trust. Without trust you really have nothing. She cant take you for your word anymore, how can she plan a life with you. Once trust is broken its almost impossible to recover. Learn the lesson so you dont make the same mistake when the next girl comes around.
2006-10-13 12:05:54 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn that sucks well you first need to earn her trust back. Be there as her friend and let her know that you screwed up and how sorry you are. Tell how much you regret it. If that talk does not work then like i said just be there for her as a friend and maybe she will eventually realize you were telling the truth and take you back.
2006-10-13 12:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by babyblue1512000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke her trust.
You have to wait.
If you really want her back do everything you can to show her from a distance that you are doing it right. This means no stupid one nighters or 'we were on a break.'
stay clean, live it for her to see- if it real she will come back. You can not make her forgive you. Stay out of her face. She is hurt now and being all up in her business will only piss her off more.
Write her one letter acknowledging your bad, aplogizing for it, and stating your love and desire for her forgiveness. leave the ball in her court. and WAIT.
Dont force it.
wait.
2006-10-13 12:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by DrVodka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you REALLY broke her trust. If she cant give you one more chance, and if you really love her, then you need to give her up for now. Still be around if she wants to talk, but, let her get on with her life and you get on with yours.
Sometimes in life, we make mistakes, but, you got to learn from them.
Breaking her trust was your choice, not hers. Breaking up with you is her choice, not yours. Tis sad, but, sometimes life is sad.
I am sorry that your hurt, but, tis time to move on. Good Luck.
2006-10-13 12:07:57 · answer #8 · answered by donamarie_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes letting you go the best way she knows how. There is nothing you can do to make her trust you again or make her willing to work on it. If she isnt willing, then its over. Sorry.
2006-10-13 12:05:23 · answer #9 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to "win" someone back, they aren't for you. She may just have needed a break after so long, or got tired of you, who knows? If all else fails, just talk to her about it, hopefully she will be honest and you will know for sure.
2006-10-13 12:05:52 · answer #10 · answered by Fuzzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋